A short while ago I was running an AAMET EFT Level 1 training in Newcastle and one of the participants asked me a question I’ve never been asked before.
She said that although she had some experience with EFT and had used it on and off for a while she found it difficult to motivate herself to use it consistently.
“How do you motivate yourself to use EFT regularly?”
After a moment’s thought my answer was:
“You need to decide to be free”
I think this is a fundamental shift in attitude that is required for someone to take the many self-help tools and techniques that are available and make use of them.
I suspect that many people read books, attend workshops or trainings and are wow-ed by the results they get but quickly forget to use the techniques they have learned and slip back into their uncomfortable (but familiar) way of life.
If you want to get the best you can from your technique of choice: meditation, EFT, NLP, (insert your favourite three-letter acronym here) then you need to make a decision that you have had enough of things as they are and want to have a different experience of life. I think you have to make this commitment at some level to get long-term benefit from these processes. Otherwise you will just be a dabbler, trying this book, that workshop, each new technique and miracle cure that comes along. To get the benefits of the technique you need to do the work.
“… Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”
- W. H. Murray in The Scottish Himalaya Expedition
The moment you decide you want to be free of your old reactions and responses I think your relationship to your techniques of choice changes, from looking for something that will miraculously fix you, to something you can use to change your experience of life.
This kind of decision takes care of questions of motivation because the response to our unhelpful reactions and responses shifts from ‘Can I be bothered to work on this?’ or ‘Have I got time to change this?’ to ‘Why on earth would I want to keep this old response?’ and ‘What can I do to change this?’. Making the change after that may be an effort but it isn’t a chore.
So, have you decided to be free?
