Do you like being criticised?
Do you enjoy having your deficiencies pointed out?
No, not many people do. It’s uncomfortable when others tell us we are too this or that, or not enough of the other. Yet many of us criticises ourselves in these ways all the time.
We tell ourselves that we are too fat, too old, too lazy, too stupid to be able to do something. Or we are not smart enough, not experienced enough, not brave enough to do something else.
Somewhere in our minds we have a standard that we are failing to meet. You may want to do something to improve in that regard and that’s understandable. However you may be using I’m too … or I’m not … enough to give yourself a hard time.
You may think that you ‘have’ to do things this way to make a change for the better, but how well is that strategy working for you?
No one arrives in the world thinking – I’m not good enough or I’m too lazy – you learnt that, or more likely you were taught that at an early age.
If you want to be more accepting of yourself then letting go of these judgements may be a good place to start.
In standard EFT you might start by tapping on the phrase ‘Even though I am too lazy (or whatever) I accept myself and how I feel’. This is one way of working but it is working on the current experience of the belief rather than the source of the belief.
In this month’s EFT Cafe Andy Hunt will demonstrate a process involving EFT and NLP that allows you to go to the time you acquired these beliefs and release them. If you are troubled by these kinds of self judgements or you work with people who are this will be a valuable process to learn. You won’t need any experience of NLP but you will need some experience of EFT to get the most from this session.
The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th April from 7pm to 9pm in The Teaching Centre, St Oswald’s Hospice, South Gosforth, Newcastle. The cost is just £10.