Humans have agency, we can make decisions and cause things to happen, in other words we can be ‘at cause’ in our lives.
Being at cause means we are resourceful, capable and able to act to influence our lives and we know that we are. We feel that we are able to influence the outcome of our lives.
On the other hand if we feel we are ‘at effect’ the world does things to us and we can’t change anything. Other people and circumstances control our lives, we might feel we have no agency and can’t influence what happens to us.
In this state of learned helplessness we feel powerless to change anything, we are a hostage to other people and circumstances.
Being at effect can show up in our language when people say things like this:
- There is nothing I can do until they ….
- My family run my life.
- I have to wait until they …
In this month’s EFT Cafe Andy Hunt will demonstrate a tapping process that helps us reclaim our agency so we can exert more influence and control on our lives. The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 11th April from 7pm to 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne