Intention Tapping Is Not Just For Soothing Angry Drivers

A few weeks ago I visited my sister who still lives in my home town in rural North Wales.

This area is criss crossed with narrow roads that don’t normally see much traffic. One morning I was driving down one of these roads through a 300 metre single track section stuck between a dry stone wall on one side and an earth bank on the other.

Fortunately, this road isn’t used very much and it is unusual to run into someone on this particular stretch … but of course I did.

I came face to face with another car, full of young men, heading in the opposite direction.

When we stopped, facing each other, he was just 5 metres past a small widening of the road I could have squeezed into to let him pass. I was about 100 metres passed a similar passing place.

I smiled and shrugged at the other driver expecting him to back up so I could get past.

He had different ideas.

He flicked his hand at me in a dismissive ‘you back up’ gesture.

I cursed and started to back up.

A 100 metres later I squeezed into a passing place and he drove past without so much as a nod of acknowledgement.

Attachment Leads To Suffering

I sat there for a few seconds cursing and grumbling about the youth of today.

Even though nobody was hurt and nothing was damaged I was suffering.

I fumed about:

  • how arrogant he was (obviously they must have been louts!)
  • that he should have backed up to let me past
  • I should have made him back up
  • he should have been more considerate
  • he should have been more friendly
  • he should at least of said thank you
  • etc.
  • etc.
  • etc.

I was thoroughly emotionally attached to my story about how I had been wronged and it hurt.

Of course I could have used standard EFT/Tapping to soothe all this righteous indignation: neutralising the memory and resolving each of these (very annoying) aspects of the ‘problem’.

But I didn’t do that, instead, I did a few rounds of tapping using the Intention Tapping created by Australian Psychologist and tapping expert Steve Wells.

This is a very simple way of freeing ourselves from our attachment to our distress.

The process is simplicity itself I tapped a few rounds on:

"I release all my emotional attachments to that incident" and "I release all my emotional attachments to the $%#!% idiot driving that car"

The incident that had so upset me very quickly became just something that happened.

Of course most problems are much worse than having to reversing down narrow country roads, but whatever the issue there is likely to be an emotional attachment to the issue that is painful.

The issues could be:

  • Memories or traumatic experiences
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Our fantasies about what bad things will happen in the future AKA anxiety and apprehension.
  • Excessive rumination and thinking
  • etc.

These can be difficult experiences in themselves, but adding emotional attachment to them can make them much worse.

That’s where Steve’s intention based tapping can help. It helps us let go of our attachment to our issues.

Steve Wells Intention Tapping Workshop – London

Steve Wells is running an Intention Tapping workshop this autumn in London and I’m delighted to be helping organise one of his infrequent visits to the UK.

This new workshop on the use of Intention Tapping for working with the core beliefs that drive your life; beliefs relating to your Vision, Values, Identity, Goals and Purpose: these core beliefs profoundly influence your life and your work.

Since learning the Intention Tapping techniques I have found them to be a powerful addtion to my ‘tapping toolkit’ so I am also looking forward to learning how to better use these techniques with my clients.

This is what I said about Steve’s last workshop in Manchester in 2018

“The speed and ease of this process makes it very powerful and wide ranging in a way that standard EFT/tapping (which is excellent) can’t manage. It’s the difference between ‘hunt and peck’ typing and touch typing – both create words but one is much easier than the other.

Apart from the speed the other wow factor for me is the harnessing of the unconscious mind to do what it does best by following its own links and associations which are hidden from our own conscious mind.

In my opinion the combination of power and grace in the ‘Intention Tapping’ processes are worth their weight in gold.”

As you can see, I have a very high opinion of Steve and his workshops.

Bonus workshop: After the weekend workshop there is also a bonus Practitioner only day for people who want to use Intention Tapping (IEP) to work with trauma in their clients.

You can find out more about both Intention Tappings workshops here

Workshop Details

Weekend Intention Tapping Workshop

Saturday 26 October 2019, 9.30am – 5.30pm

Sunday 27 October 2019, 9.30am – 5.30pm

Extra Practitioners Trauma Release Day

Monday 28 October 2019, 9.30am – 5.30pm

Venue

Grange White Hall Hotel
2-5 Montague Street
London, WC1B

Registration Fees

2-day Power of Intention Tapping Workshop (26-27 Oct)

  • Super Earlybird: £295 (if you register by 31 May 2019)
  • Earlybird: £345 (if paid after 31 May and prior to 31 July 2019)
  • Full Fee: £395 (if you register after 31 July 2019)

Click here to book your place on this workshop

2-Day Workshop PLUS Extra Practitioners Day (26-28 Oct)

  • Super Earlybird: £395 (if you register by 31 May 2019
  • Earlybird: £445 (if paid after 31 May and prior to 31 July 2019)
  • Full Fee: £495 (if you register after 31 July 2019)

Click here to book your place on BOTH workshops

EFT Cafe – 8th May 2019 – Doodle Tapping

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Feelings can be tricky.

Sometimes they can be both overwhelming and complicated, which can make them hard to work with using standard tapping process.

My friend and colleague Masha Bennett created ‘Doodle Tapping’ seven years ago to help her clients process difficult emotional states. She recently shared this simple process with me and I’ve since used it for myself and with clients with surprising results.

In this week’s EFT Cafe Andy Hunt will demonstrate ‘Doodle Tapping’ and how it can be used in a variety of situations (all materials will be provided).

The EFT Cafe is from 7pm – 9pm on the 8th May at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre in Newcastle and costs £10.

AAMET Has Become EFT International

EFT International Logo

AAMET International (AAMET) has changed its name to EFT International (EFTi)

AAMET (Association for the Advancement of Meridian Energy Techniques) was formed in the late 1990s as an organisation promoting a variety of new therapeutic techniques including Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).

Over time AAMET became established as a registered charity in the UK and the largest international organisation of EFT Practitioners and Trainers.

To reflect the international nature and the focus on EFT in April of 2019 AAMET International was renamed EFT International (EFTi)

This doesn’t mean that AAMET has gone away. If you trained with an AAMET trainer in the past your certificates and accreditation (If you have any) are still valid.

Future trainings and certificates will now be under the umbrella of EFT International.

You can find out more about EFT International at https://eftinternational.org

EFT Cafe – 10th April 2019 – The 5 Whys

5 Whys
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Tapping Into The Root Cause Of Problems

When we are stuck in a problem, or stuck again in an old familiar problem, it’s hard to know what is causing it (the core issue).

If you don’t know what the cause of problem is how can you approach it with tapping?

That’s where the ‘5 Whys’ can help. This process was created in the 1950s by Sakichi Toyoda, the founder of Toyota Industries, to uncover the root cause of manufacturing problems. This simple process turns out to be surprisingly good at uncovering the root causes of personal challenges. Once you know what the root cause you can apply EFT/Tapping more effectively.

In this month’s EFT Cafe on Wednesday 10th April 2019 Andy Hunt will be demonstrating how to combine the 5 Whys with tapping to get to the parts other processes don’t reach.

The EFT Cafe is held at St Oswald’s Hospice, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10.

The Gratitude Flip

 

Gratitude Flip

When you’re chewing on life’s gristle,
Don’t grumble, give a whistle
And this will help things turn out for the best …

Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life – The Life Of Brian

It’s a well known fact that gratitude is good for your mental, physical and emotional health.

We are encouraged to feel and express gratitude on a daily basis, maybe even keep a gratitude journal where we write down the things we feel grateful for.

I have a confession to make: while I’m happy to feel grateful and glad to say thank you, I’m not very good with formal gratitude practices.

I’ve started gratitude journals several times, but after a while my lists of things I am to be grateful for start to look the same and my recitation of this things I should feel grateful for start to feel stale and perfunctory.

But, all is not lost.

I think I’ve found a way in to feeling genuine gratitude through, of all things, the myriad annoyances of daily life.

Read moreThe Gratitude Flip

How To Use Questions To Get Unstuck

Image courtesy of Milos Milosevic
Image courtesy of Milos Milosevic

How are your New Year resolutions going?

Are you making progress, or are they stalled?

Most people express their resolutions as statements:

  • to lose weight
  • go to the gym three times a week
  • to learn Spanish

Even if it’s not New Year, you probably have a list of tasks you want to do, for example: I want to write this article to make it in time for my next newsletter.

In my to-do list it is expressed as: “write newsletter article”.

It’s a simple, straightforward description of what I need to do and it even has an action verb at the start to help propel me into … er … action.

Unfortunately this task has been languishing on my to-do list for most of this week. Sometimes, these things are easier said than done.

Ironically, this article is about helping you get moving on your resolutions and to-do lists. So I’m pleased to be writing this as a result of the wonderfully simple technique described in the article.

Ask me a question

How did I get moving on the write the newsletter article task.

Simple, I turned the write the newsletter article statement into this question.

Read moreHow To Use Questions To Get Unstuck

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