Are You Stuck In Your Child Car Seat?

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Think of a child car seat.

If you are a parent you probably had one (or more) in the back of your car as your children grew up.

Under most circumstances your baby started in a baby carrier and then progressed to getting strapped into their child seat (often with a lot of squirming and shouting).

Eventually your child is comfortable, securely seated and safe.

Eventually they get too big for the child seat, moving on to a booster seat, and finally they sit in the car just like everyone else.

Imagine, that for some strange reason, the child has to use the same little seat forever!

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EFT Cafe – Stress Prevention – March 10th 2020

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It’s common to talk about EFT/Tapping for stress relief: have a difficult experience, feel bad, tap on those feelings to feel better.

Usually people (even experienced tappers) have to feel really bad before they think of tapping for stress relief.

Rather than wait to feel bad before tapping wouldn’t it be better to reduce your stress response before the experience so you could be calm when the stressful situation happens.

In this month’s EFT Cafe Andy Hunt will introduce some approaches to help you be in the ‘eye of the storm’ when it comes, rather than being blown about by it.

This month’s EFT Cafe is on Tuesday, 10th March 2020 at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Newcastle upon Tyne.

Repair and Prepare: Tapping Your Way Out Of Repetitive Stress

How many times have you had the thought “Oh no, not again!”?

In my pre-EFT life I was a software engineer in a small image analysis company. I was given the responsibility of supporting a project that had several technical problems.

Every couple of weeks I’d get a call from our customer who was (rightly) concerned about the lack of progress we were making. By accident or design he knew exactly how to make me feel bad so that I would promise repairs and add new features to make up for the lack of progress.

Each call was more painful than the last one, as time went on I came to dread them. I was so knotted up with tension whenever he called I was surprised I could still string sentences together.

Each call made the next one worse. It was a vicious circle I couldn’t get out of, if only I’d had EFT then.

A lot of our daily stressors have a kind of repetitive quality, it’s the same thing over and over again.

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Tapping: Natural, Powerful and Safe?

There is a common belief among tappers that even though EFT/Tapping is powerful, it is safe because it is natural.

If you tap on an issue nothing bad can happen because EFT only uses the body’s natural self-soothing mechanisms.

What could be safer?

Unfortunately being natural doesn’t make you safe: tigers, arsenic, Great White Sharks, Deadly Nightshade and lightning are all perfectly natural and perfectly capable of killing you.

Being natural is no guarantee of safety.

It gets worse.

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Why it’s better to learn from life than be taught by it.

I recently saw this ‘inspirational’ quote

“When you replace “why is this happening?” with “what is this trying to teach me?” then everything shifts.

There is a popular idea in personal growth circles that difficult things are really lessons, provided by God / Universe / Spirit / Source that we need to be taught to progress to our next level of ‘spiritual development’.

From this perspective, asking the question “What is this trying to teach me?” makes sense.

It’s probably a better question than “Why is this happening to me?” but I think the metaphor underpinning the question has some serious downsides.

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Resistance Has Got A Bad Name

Resistance has got a bad name.

In the ‘be positive at all costs’ popular culture experiencing resistance or engaging in self-sabotage is seen as a ‘bad thing’, something to be overcome or eliminated.

If you experience resistance or self-sabotage you might feel lacking, defective or even morally defective and, if you are really unlucky, other people will agree with you.

I think the conventional ‘wisdom’ that resistance and self-sabotage are bad and should be treated like some kind of mental leprosy is wrong and may even make things worse.

I think there is a more useful explanation for resistance and self-sabotage.

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