I’ll try ….

I’ve been trying to get this article written for a while. That’s the whole point of trying, isn’t it? A declaration of intent that never quite works out. We’ve probably all heard versions of this:

  • We’ll try to get the part by Wednesday
  • I’ll try to remember
  • I’ll try to phone you back before the end of the day

It’s almost guaranteed as a promise that’s well meant but unlikely to be fullfilled. Have you ever heard yourself say ‘I’ll try to …’ either out loud or to yourself? That’s what prompted me to write this article. I noticed I was often telling myself ‘I’ll try to….’.

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UPDATE: Introductory EFT at St Oswalds Hospice

As you may know I’m running two Introduction to EFT talks at St Oswalds Hospice on May 22nd and June 3.

The Monday May 22nd talk is almost full, if you would like to attend let me know, I don’t want to have to turn people away at the door.

There is still plenty of room on the Saturday June 3rd talk, if you’d like to come along I’d be happy to see you.

Please note: these talks are for the general public not just people with a connection to St Oswalds.

Introductory EFT talks

I’m running two introductory talks on Emotional Freedom Techniques at St Oswald’s Hospice in Newcastle in the next few weeks. I’ll be talking about and demonstrating EFT and how can be used to achieve greater peace of mind by:

  • Relieving the physical sensations of anxiety and stress, such as churning stomach, racing heart and stress headaches.
  • Changing your responses to challenging situations and people, being able to face difficulties with strength and confidence.
  • Letting go of irrational fears and phobias
  • Neutralising traumatic memories of accidents, assaults and abuse, or just cleaning up your emotional state after a bad day.
  • Preparing for stressful events such as public speaking or medical procedures, so you can be at your best, rather than a quivering wreck.

If any of those subjects are interesting to you, perhaps you might like to come along.


The talks are at the Coleman Education Centre, St Oswalds Hospice, Regents Avenue, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne.


  • Monday May 22nd at 2:30-4:30pm
  • Saturday June 3rd 10am-12pm.

They are free to the staff and volunteers at St Oswalds and £5 for everyone else.

All proceeds will go to St Oswalds Hospice to support their work.

If you’d like to come along please drop me a line

Quickie Covert EFT

This excellent EFT tip comes courtesy of Charlie Curtis of the Art Of NLP Yahoo newsgroup.

A really quick and easy way to do EFT, that can be done just about anywhere, as it doesn’t draw attention, is:

  1. Place several fingers of one hand on the gamut point of the other hand (the groove between the ring and pinkie fingers) and apply pressure and rub gently in an almost imperceptible circular motion. This just looks like you’re scratching your hand and draws no attention from onlookers. Or alternatively, you can pretend to be nervous or bored and slowly tap the flat of these fingers on the gamut point, and that will work too.
  2. Doing this while a negative emotion is active will cause the negative emotion to quickly reduce in intensity and then disappear, usually in about a minute’s time. The speed with which this can work is truly stunning, as a seemingly-locked-in-place feeling of upset, depression, fear, or whatever can just melt away “just like that” and be completely gone in a minute’s time.
  3. This can be used for compulsive urges, such as a smoking or food urge, for negative feelings like a feeling of annoyance, depression, or anticipatory anxiety. It’s a quick and easy way to handle pre-event jitters. It fits right in and is very natural when you’re sitting in a waiting room where other nervous people are unconsciously rubbing and tapping on their hands, as they do “natural EFT” to relax.

Many thanks to Charlie for letting me pass this on

To tap or not to tap

A came across this elegant summary of perenial problem

To tap or not to tap,
That is the question.
Whether ‘tis nobler in the mind
To suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune
Or to tap continually against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing—end them.

William Shakespeare with adjustments by Dr David Lake

This neatly and humoursly addresses something I’ve noticed. Some clients get a lot of benefits in the session, praising EFT to the hilt, then a few weeks later they are no longer tapping and the benefits have faded from view. They’ll say things like “It didn’t work for me”, or “The problem came back”.

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