Practice Safe EFT For Better Self Help

Stay safeMost of us experience moderate amounts of stress or distress in our lives. Some of us experience huge amounts of stress and distress that can make our lives a misery.

Naturally people want to feel better.

The self-help shelves at the book store groan under the weight of all the self-help books offering techniques and approaches to relieve your suffering. EFT books are finding their way on to those shelves in increasing numbers.

In the online age advice and suggestions for tapping self help are all around us. If you Google EFT + ‘your problem’ you are likely to be overwhelmed with suggestions. You may be invited to tap along with videos and scripts, sign up for courses and download ebooks designed to help you resolve this, that or the other, problem.

We are very lucky to have EFT/Tapping available as a powerful self-help tool, but there’s good news and bad news.

The good news is that EFT/Tapping is very powerful, it can reach deep issues and process difficult emotions. In the hands of a skilled practitioner who knows what to do and how to do it you can make a great deal of progress at relieving your stress and soothing your distress.

The bad news is that EFT/Tapping is very powerful, it can reach deep issues and process difficult emotions. In the hands of someone who doesn’t know what they are doing it may not work at all, or it may ‘work’ too well and you will get into emotional trouble that can be hard to get out of.

That’s one of the reasons why working with a good practitioner is so helpful, they know what to do, how to do it and how to keep you safe while you are doing it.

If you are using EFT/Tapping for yourself you are both your own therapist and your own client. It’s important not to bite off more than you can chew.

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Why Short, Online EFT ‘Practitioner Trainings’ Are A Bad Idea

Online courses are appearing everywhere.

They are short, convenient, inexpensive and easy to access wherever you are in the world.

What’s not to like?

If the course is offering you a ‘Practitioner Certificate’ for watching a few hours (or less) video and reading a couple of articles then there is quite a lot not to like.

In the video above I had a quick rant about why I thought short online EFT ‘Practitioner’ courses are a bad idea.

This article is an in depth look at these courses and why they are well worth avoiding if you want to become a confident, competent practitioner of EFT.

I’m going to talk about EFT because that’s where I have the most experience but what follows applies equally well for NLP, Hypnotherapy or any other ‘healing skills’ being ‘taught’ in these courses.

There are lots of different online courses available, but this article focuses on the trainings that are:

  • Low cost
  • Low effort – you only need to watch videos and read articles.
  • Short duration – anything from 39 minutes (!) to 8 hours.
  • Implying or promising that you will be able to use your new skills with other people.
  • Promise you some kind of ‘Practitioner Certificate’ of some sort when you have completed the course.
  • One way only – that is you get no observation or feedback from the trainer during the training.
  • One off – there is no continuing support after the training

All that glisters is not gold

These courses often have impressive, official sounding titles:

  • EFT / TFT Tapping Master Practitioner Certification (Expert)
  • EFT & TFT Tapping Practitioner Certification
  • Professional Accredited EFT Diploma Course

They always promise amazing results

  • Become an awesome EFT Practitioner
  • Help others to rid themselves of negative and disempowering emotions
  • Uncover the deeper levels of helping that EFT and TFT can provide

If you are thinking of taking such a course because you want to become an ‘EFT Practitioner’ please look elsewhere.

If you are emotionally distressed and thinking of taking your problems to an ‘EFT Practitioner’ who has only taken a short online course please look elsewhere.

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EFT Level 1 Training – September 2018 – Newcastle Upon Tyne

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as ‘Tapping’, is a simple, yet very effective, healing process that uses your body’s built in stress relief system.

By tapping with your fingertips on the ends of acupuncture meridians you can reduce, or eliminate, all types of negative emotions including fears, anger, phobias, grief, traumatic memories, stress and anxiety.

Learning EFT/Tapping at these workshops may be helpful for people who:

  • suffer from stress – they can feel as if life is getting too much for them and they are struggling to cope with their emotional challenges.
  • experience anxiety – they might find that simple experiences trigger unnecessary fear or apprehension.
  • are upset by unhappy memories – they find that there are some memories that they just can’t let go of, even remembering them is distressing and stressful.
  • have unwanted emotional reactions to people or situations – they may react to situations or people in ways that they don’t like but feel unable to change.
  • feel that their emotions are out of control – it’s as if their emotions have a mind of their own, no matter what they do they still feel bad when they think they shouldn’t.
  • have a busy or troubled mind – they go over difficult memories or imaginings time after time, getting nowhere but feeling bad about it.
  • want ways to manage cravings – they would like not to have to struggle to resist chocolate, cigarrettes, wine, junk TV and many other unwanted temptations.
  • would like to treat common aches and pains– they want a simple technique that help them ease their own physical discomforts.
  • would like more peace of mind – they just want to be more comfortable in their body and mind.

If that sounds like you this two-day AAMET EFT Level 1 Foundations Training is designed to give you a thorough introduction to EFT and give you the skills and confidence to use it in everyday life

The training includes:

  • An introduction to the history and principles of EFT.
  • How to use EFT to take the stress and distress out of everyday problems.
  • How to neutralise unpleasant memories with EFT.
  • Using EFT to ease cravings and sooth physical discomfort.
  • How to use EFT in daily life to be less stressed and more effective.

Important: These EFT Level 1 Training courses are designed to show you how to use EFT to relieve your own issues and to do simple work with family and friends. This is not a substitute for personal therapy, nor will it train you to be an EFT therapist in your own right, though you may use the certificate to attend an EFT Level 2 course for further training.

The course includes a full manual and all training materials. At the end of the training day you will receive an AAMET EFT Level 1 Attendance Certificate which is required if you want to progress to the EFT Level 2 training to add EFT to your professional tool box.

This training is fully self-contained and open to all, after attending you will be able to use EFT confidently for a variety of issues. If you want to go further, developing your EFT skills for working with other people, it serves as the foundation for the Level 2 / AAMET EFT Practitioner course.

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR PLACE

The Early Bird fee of £135 ends at midnight 3rd August 2018.
Thereafter, the Full fee is £195 (there are only 8 places available on this training).

From Carl Rogers To Identity Healing

Tony Mudd Memorial Lecture
Tony Mudd Memorial Lecture
On 22nd March 2018 I had the pleasure of presenting this talk to an audience of counsellors and counselling students at Tyne Met College.

It’s a personal account of the development of the Identity Healing processes that I use with my clients.

The talk is about how a shy introverted teenager who didn’t feel quite good enough developed the process that helped him and helps others.

This 40 year journey includes encounter groups, Carl Rogers, Buddhism, NLP, introductions to inner children, EFT (aka Tapping), how our younger selves get stuck and one way of getting unstuck.

Note: I recorded the talk on my phone so the sound quality is a little bit variable in places.

EFT Gathering 4×4 – Ilkley, 29th & 30th April 2017

Gwyneth Moss, EFT Master and organiser of the annual EFT Gathering is organising a new form of workshop for anyone who wants to develop their tapping skills.

The 4×4 event is a two day set of four workshops (followed by an optional day long workshop by Gwyneth). There are four presenters, one of whom just happens to be me!

It promises to be a rich weekend of tapping and exploration with four very different presenters. I’m presenting a brief introduction to the Identity Healing process on Sunday afternoon.

Gwyneth says:

Four of your favourite presenters teaching four advanced EFT workshops over a weekend followed by EFT Constellations all day on Monday. Read more https://www.eftgathering.com

EFT 4×4 as we are calling it is the weekend of 29/30 April and the workshops are:

SATURDAY AM – GWYNETH MOSS – SURROGATE TAPPING FOR CHILDREN
Have you tried surrogate tapping but struggled to find the words? Gwyneth developed the 3 Phase approach to teach ethical and effective surrogate tapping for all. Children love tapping but sometimes its gentler for a friend or parent to offer remote help. Teaching, demonstration, exercises and discussion

SATURDAY PM – SUSIE FOSTER – TAP AWAY SCHOOL STRESS
School stress is on the increase. Susie’s Gathering presentation was a favourite. Now she shows you how she teaches emotional literacy to 7 year olds. How she gets a whole class tapping and how everyone has lots of fun.

SUNDAY AM – ROS BARBER – TAPPING INTO INSPIRATION
Have you ever struggled to find the words to write about EFT and what you do? Do you feel it should be easier to write a letter or article? Or is there a book in you? Award winning writer Ros Barber has designed this practical workshop for you to tap through your fear, into your inspiration and express your true voice in writing.

SUNDAY PM – ANDY HUNT – THE IDENTITY HEALING EXPERIENCE
Andy Hunt combined his deep knowledge of NLP with tapping to create Identity Healing a suite of processes to gently heal the younger suffering parts of ourselves that are still struggling in our adult lives. Andy’s workshop gives you a taste of what is possible.

MONDAY – GWYNETH MOSS – EFT CONSTELLATIONS
Do we live out the stuck emotional patterns of our ancestors? What if tapping could reach into the family field and clear traumas long past? EFT Constellations group work does just that. An experiential day for experienced tappers.

Come and join us at the Clarke Foley Centre in Ilkley. Spring is gorgeous here with bluebells and walks on the moor. https://www.eftgathering.com Book your place at https://regonline.co.uk/eft4x4

hope to see you soon
Gwyneth

eftevents@gmail.com

I’m looking forward to the event, I think it’s going to be fascinating.

Contact Gwyneth directly if you need more information.

How your past can be running your present (and what to do about it)

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EFT/Tapping is a wonderful self-help tool. You can use it to soothe difficult emotions and ease painful memories.

It’s so good, you imagine that if you just tapped on the symptoms of your problem, relief would be quick to follow.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t seem to work that way.

A quick search on the internet will find a multitude of tapping scripts or tap-along videos for your problem. However, while tapping along can soothe the distress at the time, those old feelings can come back later.

It’s as if tapping on the symptoms is like hacking away at the leaves of a tree. If the trunk of the tree is untouched the leaves can grow back with ease. If we don’t work on the trunk and the roots then we could make slow progress.

Let’s imagine someone called Annie.

Annie is now in her thirties and has had the uneasy feeling that she is not wanted for as long as she can remember.

Although she is in a long-term relationship with a loving partner, she often imagines that she is about to lose him to someone who is ‘better’ than she is. In spite of his obvious love for her, she finds it hard to accept that he does love her and that it will last.

She strives to conceal her reservations and be pleasing to him. She puts him first to ensure she keeps his affections.

But, even when things are going well, she feels a deep-seated unease about her relationship and how long it will last.

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