EFT Cafe – 14th November 2018 – Four Step Questioning For Better Tapping

Four Step QuestionsOne of the principles of EFT / Tapping is to be specific.

Unfortunately a lot of our problems seem vague and elusive.

How do you tap on low self esteem, general discontent, poor relationships, procrastination or indecisiveness?

Some things are just so vague that it’s like tapping on fog. So how can you get specific enough to tap?

In this month’s EFT Cafe  on Wednesday 14th, November 2018 at 7pm Andy Hunt will demonstrate a four part questioning process to help you turn the vague and general into the concrete and specific.

In short, it will give you something to tap on.

Can you help me write a book?

The Tapping ToolkitA few years ago I published a book called The Tapping Toolkit, a collection of tools and techniques that I had developed over the years I’ve used EFT with clients and on myself.

Now I’d like to update the book with a new version that builds on and adds some new techniques and tactics I’ve developed since the first version, written in 2014.

So how can you help me write a book?

In the ‘old’ days if you wanted a book you had to wait for the author to write it and for it to be published. If you’ve ever written a book you will know that this can take a long time. As a reader you had to wait for the author to finish and then you got the whole book all at once.

This, traditional, approach to writing a book has two main drawbacks:

  1. The book may or may not be useful for the person it is written for. The reader gets no say in what is covered and how it is explained. They have to take the authors version as it is.
  2. The book depends on the writers ability to know what the reader wants or needs. What’s written and how it is written is based on the writer’s guesses about what matters to the reader.

Now there is a way of writing a book that incorporates the feedback and needs of the reader.

New technology allows writers to quickly build and distribute a several editions of the book over time and respond the feedback and interests of the people who want to read it.

With each new edition the book becomes a better book because it addresses the needs of the people it is written for.

This is the approach I’m adopting for the new version of The Tapping Toolkit.

How does this work?

The latest version of The Tapping Toolkit is available from here.

There are two versions available:

  • A free sample so you can find out if you like what I have to say and how I’m saying it.
  • The current version of the book as it evolves which you need to pay for.

The current version of the book will evolve over time as I respond to feedback and add new chapters.

You can download the free sample at any time. If you like what you see you can buy an ebook edition of the current version.

You choose your price between a minimum and maximum value. Once you buy the book you get all the following updates free of charge when they are published.

In the early days the minimum fee will be quite low, as the book gets larger and closer to completion the minimum price will rise reflecting the value of the larger book.

When the book finally reaches version 1.0 and is complete. I will create a paperback version for those of you who like real books. If you have bought an ebook version of The Tapping Toolkit I will offer a substantial discount on the paperback version.

What’s in it for you?

This approach to writing a book is called ‘Lean Publishing’ and it has the following benefits to you the reader:

  • You get a usable book far sooner than if you had to wait for the author to finish the final copy.
  • You can send feedback, comments and ask for clarification to the author which may be incorporated into the next edition. Your new (free) updated book will be improved by the collective feedback of other readers.
  • As each new chapter is added and feedback included you will get a bigger and better book.
  • Each new mini-edition will be delivered in a matter of weeks.
  • Once you have bought the book you will get each update free of charge.
  • You decide what to pay for the book within the minimum and maximum suggested price.
  • When the paperback version of the book is published you will get a substantial discount if you decide to upgrade from pixels to paper.

What’s in it for me?

This approach is not only good for you it has benefits for me too:

  • It’s a lot easier to explain things if you get good feedback.
  • It’s motivating to know that people are interested and invested in what you want to say.
  • I get better royalties than I’d get from a regular publisher/bookseller like Amazon.

For most of you this is probably a very unusual way to get a book. As far as I know I am the only EFT author using this approach.

If you are interested in the book you can download a free sample from The Tapping Toolkit webpage.

If you like what you read you can buy the current version of the book from the same webpage.

I hope you find the book interesting (and decide to buy it) and I look forward to receiving your comments and feedback so I can make it a better and even more useful book.

Practice Safe EFT For Better Self Help

Stay safeMost of us experience moderate amounts of stress or distress in our lives. Some of us experience huge amounts of stress and distress that can make our lives a misery.

Naturally people want to feel better.

The self-help shelves at the book store groan under the weight of all the self-help books offering techniques and approaches to relieve your suffering. EFT books are finding their way on to those shelves in increasing numbers.

In the online age advice and suggestions for tapping self help are all around us. If you Google EFT + ‘your problem’ you are likely to be overwhelmed with suggestions. You may be invited to tap along with videos and scripts, sign up for courses and download ebooks designed to help you resolve this, that or the other, problem.

We are very lucky to have EFT/Tapping available as a powerful self-help tool, but there’s good news and bad news.

The good news is that EFT/Tapping is very powerful, it can reach deep issues and process difficult emotions. In the hands of a skilled practitioner who knows what to do and how to do it you can make a great deal of progress at relieving your stress and soothing your distress.

The bad news is that EFT/Tapping is very powerful, it can reach deep issues and process difficult emotions. In the hands of someone who doesn’t know what they are doing it may not work at all, or it may ‘work’ too well and you will get into emotional trouble that can be hard to get out of.

That’s one of the reasons why working with a good practitioner is so helpful, they know what to do, how to do it and how to keep you safe while you are doing it.

If you are using EFT/Tapping for yourself you are both your own therapist and your own client. It’s important not to bite off more than you can chew.

Read morePractice Safe EFT For Better Self Help

Why Short, Online EFT ‘Practitioner Trainings’ Are A Bad Idea

Online courses are appearing everywhere.

They are short, convenient, inexpensive and easy to access wherever you are in the world.

What’s not to like?

If the course is offering you a ‘Practitioner Certificate’ for watching a few hours (or less) video and reading a couple of articles then there is quite a lot not to like.

In the video above I had a quick rant about why I thought short online EFT ‘Practitioner’ courses are a bad idea.

This article is an in depth look at these courses and why they are well worth avoiding if you want to become a confident, competent practitioner of EFT.

I’m going to talk about EFT because that’s where I have the most experience but what follows applies equally well for NLP, Hypnotherapy or any other ‘healing skills’ being ‘taught’ in these courses.

There are lots of different online courses available, but this article focuses on the trainings that are:

  • Low cost
  • Low effort – you only need to watch videos and read articles.
  • Short duration – anything from 39 minutes (!) to 8 hours.
  • Implying or promising that you will be able to use your new skills with other people.
  • Promise you some kind of ‘Practitioner Certificate’ of some sort when you have completed the course.
  • One way only – that is you get no observation or feedback from the trainer during the training.
  • One off – there is no continuing support after the training

All that glisters is not gold

These courses often have impressive, official sounding titles:

  • EFT / TFT Tapping Master Practitioner Certification (Expert)
  • EFT & TFT Tapping Practitioner Certification
  • Professional Accredited EFT Diploma Course

They always promise amazing results

  • Become an awesome EFT Practitioner
  • Help others to rid themselves of negative and disempowering emotions
  • Uncover the deeper levels of helping that EFT and TFT can provide

If you are thinking of taking such a course because you want to become an ‘EFT Practitioner’ please look elsewhere.

If you are emotionally distressed and thinking of taking your problems to an ‘EFT Practitioner’ who has only taken a short online course please look elsewhere.

Read moreWhy Short, Online EFT ‘Practitioner Trainings’ Are A Bad Idea

EFT Level 1 Training – September 2018 – Newcastle Upon Tyne

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as ‘Tapping’, is a simple, yet very effective, healing process that uses your body’s built in stress relief system.

By tapping with your fingertips on the ends of acupuncture meridians you can reduce, or eliminate, all types of negative emotions including fears, anger, phobias, grief, traumatic memories, stress and anxiety.

Learning EFT/Tapping at these workshops may be helpful for people who:

  • suffer from stress – they can feel as if life is getting too much for them and they are struggling to cope with their emotional challenges.
  • experience anxiety – they might find that simple experiences trigger unnecessary fear or apprehension.
  • are upset by unhappy memories – they find that there are some memories that they just can’t let go of, even remembering them is distressing and stressful.
  • have unwanted emotional reactions to people or situations – they may react to situations or people in ways that they don’t like but feel unable to change.
  • feel that their emotions are out of control – it’s as if their emotions have a mind of their own, no matter what they do they still feel bad when they think they shouldn’t.
  • have a busy or troubled mind – they go over difficult memories or imaginings time after time, getting nowhere but feeling bad about it.
  • want ways to manage cravings – they would like not to have to struggle to resist chocolate, cigarrettes, wine, junk TV and many other unwanted temptations.
  • would like to treat common aches and pains– they want a simple technique that help them ease their own physical discomforts.
  • would like more peace of mind – they just want to be more comfortable in their body and mind.

If that sounds like you this two-day AAMET EFT Level 1 Foundations Training is designed to give you a thorough introduction to EFT and give you the skills and confidence to use it in everyday life

The training includes:

  • An introduction to the history and principles of EFT.
  • How to use EFT to take the stress and distress out of everyday problems.
  • How to neutralise unpleasant memories with EFT.
  • Using EFT to ease cravings and sooth physical discomfort.
  • How to use EFT in daily life to be less stressed and more effective.

Important: These EFT Level 1 Training courses are designed to show you how to use EFT to relieve your own issues and to do simple work with family and friends. This is not a substitute for personal therapy, nor will it train you to be an EFT therapist in your own right, though you may use the certificate to attend an EFT Level 2 course for further training.

The course includes a full manual and all training materials. At the end of the training day you will receive an AAMET EFT Level 1 Attendance Certificate which is required if you want to progress to the EFT Level 2 training to add EFT to your professional tool box.

This training is fully self-contained and open to all, after attending you will be able to use EFT confidently for a variety of issues. If you want to go further, developing your EFT skills for working with other people, it serves as the foundation for the Level 2 / AAMET EFT Practitioner course.

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR PLACE

The Early Bird fee of £135 ends at midnight 3rd August 2018.
Thereafter, the Full fee is £195 (there are only 8 places available on this training).

From Carl Rogers To Identity Healing

Tony Mudd Memorial Lecture
Tony Mudd Memorial Lecture

On 22nd March 2018 I had the pleasure of presenting this talk to an audience of counsellors and counselling students at Tyne Met College.

It’s a personal account of the development of the Identity Healing processes that I use with my clients.

The talk is about how a shy introverted teenager who didn’t feel quite good enough developed the process that helped him and helps others.

This 40 year journey includes encounter groups, Carl Rogers, Buddhism, NLP, introductions to inner children, EFT (aka Tapping), how our younger selves get stuck and one way of getting unstuck.

Note: I recorded the talk on my phone so the sound quality is a little bit variable in places.

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