EFT Cafe – 9th May 2018 – Foursquare Tapping

Most of us want to be different.

We want what we don’t have and we have what we don’t and those two things seem a long way apart.

We feel like we have ‘bad’ qualities that we don’t like and want to get rid of and good qualities that we admire and want for ourselves.

We might feel lazy and want to be disciplined, selfish and want to be grateful, reserved and want to be more enthusiastic, but if we want to be more disciplined, grateful or enthusiastic why don’t we just do that?

What is holding us back and what can we do about it?

In this month’s EFT Cafe Andy Hunt introduces Foursquare tapping a process for exploring and changing the pros and cons of change.

The EFT Cafe is on from 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education centre on Wednesday 9th May.

EFT Cafe – 11th April 2018 – Tapping To Have More Control In Your Life

Not in controlHumans have agency, we can make decisions and cause things to happen, in other words we can be ‘at cause’ in our lives.

Being at cause means we are resourceful, capable and able to act to influence our lives and we know that we are. We feel that we are able to influence the outcome of our lives.

On the other hand if we feel we are ‘at effect’ the world does things to us and we can’t change anything. Other people and circumstances control our lives, we might feel we have no agency and can’t influence what happens to us.

In this state of learned helplessness we feel powerless to change anything, we are a hostage to other people and circumstances.

Being at effect can show up in our language when people say things like this:

  • There is nothing I can do until they ….
  • My family run my life.
  • I have to wait until they …
  • etc

In this month’s EFT Cafe  Andy Hunt will demonstrate a tapping process that helps us reclaim our agency so we can exert more influence and control on our lives. The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 11th April from 7pm to 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne

EFT Cafe – 14th March 2018 – Tapping Into Metaphors

The world in your handsWe are built to think in metaphors.

If you are down in the dumps, as high as a kite, or at a crossroads in your life you are thinking in metaphors.

We understand the world and how it works through metaphor. We do this so easily and naturally that we barely notice it is happening.

Our metaphors of life, work, relationships and the world shape the way with think and feel.

In this week’s EFT Cafe join Andy Hunt to explore tapping with metaphors using a structured, step by step, tapping process.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th March at 7pm at St Oswald’s Hospice from 7pm to 9pm.

EFT Cafe – 14th Feb 2018 – WOOPing & WOOTing

PlansIt’s an accepted part of the self-help culture in the West that visualising your success ‘attracts’ that success to you, making it more likely that you will achieve your goals.

Unfortunately that idea doesn’t stand up well to research. Many research studies have shown that people who just visualise their success are less likely to achieve their goes.

In ‘Rethinking Postive Thinking’ Gabrielle Oettingen, who is responsible for a lot of the research on visualisation, shows that a simple change to the visualise your success approach can make a big improvement to your chances of success.

She calls her four step process WOOP:

  • Wish – what do you want to achieve.
  • Outcome – how will it make you feel when you achieve it.
  • Obstacle – what obstacles will get in your way
  • Plan – what plan can you make to deal with those obstacles.

It’s a very simple process (you can find out more on woopmylife.org) that I’ve been experimenting with.

One of the things I’ve noticed is that the Obstacles are often limiting beliefs – these limiting beliefs are amenable to tapping – which leads to WOOT:

  • Wish – what do you want to achieve
  • Outcome – how would fulfilling that wish make you feel when you get it.
  • Obstacle – may be a limiting belief
  • Tapping – resolving the limiting belief

Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe to explore WOOPing and WOOTing on Wednesday 14th February, 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne

EFT Cafe – 10th Jan 2018 – Getting The Most Out Of Your SUDs!

ScaleA fundamental part of EFT/Tapping is scaling emotional distress.

When we are working on a painful feeling or limiting belief we ourselves or our clients:

  • How bad does ‘it’ feel on a scale of 0 to 10?
  • How true does ‘it’ feel on a scale of 0 to 10?

The number they give us are known as the SUDs or Subjective Units of Distress. Then we tap on the meridian points to reduce the strength of the emotional distress using the SUDs to measure our progress.

In an ideal world just one round of tapping would dissolve the emotional distress and we’d feel completely better, but in the real world things are not so straightforward, some feelings make take several, or even many, rounds of tapping.

Most of the time we just use the SUDs score to track our progress, but what if we could use the SUDs score to help us make our tapping more specific and more effective?

Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe on Wednesday 10th January 2018 to find out how.  7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne

EFT Cafe – December 2017 – Two Antidotes To Festive Frazzle

Festive FrazzleChristmas can be a stressful time for many people.

It is often an obstacle course of obligations, expectations and predicaments that seem to be designed to end peace on earth and drain anyone of their goodwill.

But Christmas is not the problem, how we cope with Christmas is the problem, and that is something we work with.

This month’s EFT Cafe is about two tapping techniques designed to defuse festive stresses and strains before they’ve even happened and put some of the peace, goodwill and festive spirit back into your Christmas experience.

Important: Even though these processes are being applied to the holiday season, these techniques are not just for Christmas they’re for life!

This EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th December 2017 from 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne.

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