One of my clients, who I’ll call Katie, told me that in stressful situations she was often seized by a powerful stress response. She became paralysed by anxiety, loosing her ability to think and act like an adult.
Katie said: “It’s as if I stop being a capable adult and become a terrified child.”
She had experienced this anxiety response for as long as she could remember.
Using the Identity Healing process I invited Katie to imagine that younger self, the one who was gripped by anxiety. The 6 year old girl she imagined was gripped with anxiety, struggling to meet the demands of critical and intimidating parents.
We tapped for Katie’s younger self working through layers of anxiety and fear to relieve the distress of that younger self. Towards the end of this tapping Katie noticed that although her younger self looked calm now, below the surface she was full of terror. It took a few minutes of continuous tapping to soothe this strong and painful emotional state of the younger Katie.
Finally, when that younger self was calm and soothed my client sent her love, acceptance, courage and all the other resources that younger self needed at that time but did not have available then.
When her younger self had received those gifts from her future self I invited my client to bring that younger self back into her adult self so that she could integrate with her healed younger self.
After a few moments I asked my client to invite her younger self to grow up to my clients age so she could take advantage of my clients wisdom and experience and be fully integrated into my client’s adult self.
After this work, which took about 40 minutes, Katie felt exhausted, relieved and lighter. When I asked her to remember the situations that had previously caused her this powerful anxiety response she wasn’t able to connect with that feeling. She thought it should be there, could remember what it was like, but wasn’t able to feel it.
Over the next couple of weeks Katie noticed that she no longer had the panic response.
In situations that would have sent her into anxiety and stress, she was able to respond to the situation as an adult, with an adult’s ability to think clearly, rather than a terrified child.
She found this surprising as the ‘terrified child’ response had been her way of responding to stressful situations for more that 40 years and not to have it was, in her words: “life changing”.
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