EFT Cafe – 9th Jan 2019 – The Gratitude Flip Revisited

Gratitude Flip

Last month I presented the Gratitude Flip at the EFT Cafe. Since only a few people were able to make it and I’ve come up with some new ways to use this process, so I’m going to present The Gratitude Flip again.

It’s clear that gratitude is good for your mental, physical and emotional health.

It is also clear that life is full of annoyances large and small that can make it difficult for us feel grateful.

What if we could use those annoyances to recycle our grumbles into gratitude?

It turns out that the Gratitude Flip can be used for rather more than just annoyances. I’ll be presenting these new uses at this EFT Cafe.

In this month’s EFT Cafe on Wednesday 9th January 2019 at 7pm, Andy Hunt will present The Gratitude Flip Revisited a tapping procedure designed to turn everyday grumbles into gratitude (and rather more).

The EFT Cafe is held at St Oswald’s Hospice, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10.

The Gratitude Flip

 

Gratitude Flip

When you’re chewing on life’s gristle,
Don’t grumble, give a whistle
And this will help things turn out for the best …

Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life – The Life Of Brian

It’s a well known fact that gratitude is good for your mental, physical and emotional health.

We are encouraged to feel and express gratitude on a daily basis, maybe even keep a gratitude journal where we write down the things we feel grateful for.

I have a confession to make: while I’m happy to feel grateful and glad to say thank you, I’m not very good with formal gratitude practices.

I’ve started gratitude journals several times, but after a while my lists of things I am to be grateful for start to look the same and my recitation of this things I should feel grateful for start to feel stale and perfunctory.

But, all is not lost.

I think I’ve found a way in to feeling genuine gratitude through, of all things, the myriad annoyances of daily life.

Read moreThe Gratitude Flip

EFT Cafe – 12th December 2018 – The Gratitude Flip

Gratitude Flip

When you’re chewing on life’s gristle,
Don’t grumble, give a whistle
And this will help things turn out for the best …

Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life – Eric Idle

It’s clear that gratitude is good for your mental, physical and emotional health.

It is also clear that life is full of annoyances large and small that can make it difficult for us feel grateful.

What if we could use those annoyances to recycle our grumbles into gratitude?

In this month’s EFT Cafe (close to the season of goodwill) on Wednesday 12th December at 7pm, Andy Hunt will present The Gratitude Flip a tapping procedure designed to turn everyday grumbles into gratitude.

The EFT Cafe is held at St Oswald’s Hospice, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10.

Get Out Of Your Mind To Tap

“Lose your mind and come to your senses”
    – Fritz Perls, founder of Gestalt Therapy

MindEveryone lives in a sensory world.

Our experience is what we see, hear, feel, smell, taste, think, imagine, remember and do (thinking, imagining and remembering are seeing and hearing in our inner world).

When we tap we are tapping on our internal sensory experience and how that makes us feel.

If you know about EFT you will know one of the foundations of successful EFT / Tapping is to be specific about what you are tapping on.

When we talk about being specific we are focusing on the sensory parts of our experience. The unpleasant feelings, the scary images, critical voices and painful memories that distress us, all happen at the level of sensory experience.

If we spent all our time in our sensory experience our tapping would be very simple, but because we are able to think and imagine we can take ourselves out of our sensory world into the realm of abstraction.

Thinking About Our Problems Can Cause Problems

Our capacity to think gives us ways to create abstractions and theories about why we are suffering. These theories, concepts, names, abstractions about our experience take us away from our sensory experience.

In one way it may be less distressing to spend our time thinking about the problem, in another way it can get in the way of resolving the problem.

We talk about low self-esteem, co-dependency, procrastination, borderline personality disorder and all the other conditions and syndromes that can appear on social media or in our Google searches.

While it might be useful to discuss diagnoses amongst ourselves or with professionals such abstractions are not directly amenable to tapping.

You can’t show your therapist low self-esteem, co-dependency etc because they are abstractions. They are labels for experience not the experience themselves.

The further away from sensory experience we get the more vague and un-tappable the problem gets.

Some things are just so vague that it is like wrestling with (or tapping on) fog.

So, how exactly do you tap on low self-esteem, procrastination, indecisiveness or all those other abstractions? These problems are very real to the people experiencing them, but they are hard to tap on directly.

Read moreGet Out Of Your Mind To Tap

A Crucial Distinction For Releasing Troublesome Memories With EFT

Warning: This article is for EFT Practitioners who work with difficult or traumatic memories. It is not designed as a self-help intervention. If you recognise some of your own memories from this article I encourage you to find a skilled and experienced EFT Practitioner to help you process them.

Disassociated perspective

Have you ever cleared a memory using the Movie Technique, reducing the emotional charge to zero, but still find the memory bothering, even if there is (apparently) nothing left to tap on?

You may have had this experience and wondered what you did wrong or what you missed. Well you probably didn’t do anything wrong, but you may have tapped on only one part of the memory.

If you have such a resistant memory, bring it to mind for a moment.

There are two ways of remembering an experience, one of them yields to tapping very readily one of them requires a little extra something.

Are you on the inside of the memory looking out, or the outside of the memory looking in?

I suspect that if your memory bothers you, even if you have tapped it down to zero, it is because you are on the outside of the memory looking in.

But what does that statement even mean?

Read moreA Crucial Distinction For Releasing Troublesome Memories With EFT

EFT Cafe – 14th November 2018 – Four Step Questioning For Better Tapping

Four Step QuestionsOne of the principles of EFT / Tapping is to be specific.

Unfortunately a lot of our problems seem vague and elusive.

How do you tap on low self esteem, general discontent, poor relationships, procrastination or indecisiveness?

Some things are just so vague that it’s like tapping on fog. So how can you get specific enough to tap?

In this month’s EFT Cafe  on Wednesday 14th, November 2018 at 7pm Andy Hunt will demonstrate a four part questioning process to help you turn the vague and general into the concrete and specific.

In short, it will give you something to tap on.

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