Shopping Fatigue

I was talking with a friend last week about the evils of Christmas shopping. She’d just had an unsuccessful browse in a shop looking for some more presents for the kids. She hadn’t enjoyed it, “I can’t think of anything to get them! They’ve got everything anyway!” We spent an enjoyable five minutes bemoaning the current way of doing Christmas. The hype, stress, expense and guilt in the season of goodwill.

I’ve just had an unsuccessful search for a remote controlled dragon! I promised a friend of mine that I would get her little boy the aforementioned dragon as one of his Christmas presents. She’d seen them in Woolworth’s and John Lewis, no problem I thought, I found out today that I was quite wrong. Sold out everywhere I’ve been! Three shops this lunch time in Newcastle and nine shops this evening in the Metro Centre here in Gateshead! No dragon, lots of stress. The Metro Centre advertises itself as the largest shopping centre in Europe, lots of people must love it, because it’s always full! I hate it, because it’s always full! After a fruitless search I sat in my car feeling stressed and depressed.

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How To Meditate While You Are Shopping (No Lotus Position Required)

Here’s a stress reduction opportunity that is simple and discrete. All you need is a shop window and enough time to take three breaths. If you’re rushing about trying to get all that shopping done, it’s very easy to get totally caught up in the task in hand, thinking about what you need to do next, where you need to be, what you’ve forgotten to do, or should do next.

There is so much stuff rattling around in our system it’s easy to get carried away, infected with urgency. It can be very relaxing just to slow down for a few moments.

  • The first step is actually the hardest: realise that you’re rushing around! If you’re rushing it’s very easy not to notice.
  • The second step is find a convenient shop window, stand in front of it, and pretend to look at something particularly interesting.
  • The third step is take three natural breaths, noticing the flow of the breath in and out of your system. No need to think, plan or remember things, just notice the breath coming and going three times. Just noticing can be quite calming, it can also be quite difficult, the flywheel of the mind just want’s to keep spinning.

That’s all there is to it, no-one will notice, you’re just looking in a shop window. It only takes a few moments to recollect yourself, and you can do this as many times as you like during the course of the day.

Bonus points: If you like a real challenge and find yourself on an escalator, just be aware of your breathing whilst you’re travelling between floors. It’s a little longer than three breaths, but you get that much more benefit.

Arguments can damage your health

I came across an interesting article from the New Scientist magazine, Arguments dramatically slow wound healing, in which researchers in the US have demonstrated that having a 30 minute argument with your spouse can delay healing time for a wound by up to a day. In addition, hostile couples were estimated to heal at only 60% of the rate of couples with low hostility. The research was carried out on young and healthy couples, presumably the elderly and immunosupressed would have an even harder time of it.

More proof of the mind-body connection and how our mental state can affect our physical wellbeing. It’s yet another good reason for working out your disagreements with EFT or some other process. For an EFT approach you might like to try out the suggestions in Composting for beginners and Dealing with difficult people for ideas on how to reduce the negative effects of arguments and the argumentative.

How To Stop Imaginary Arguments With EFT

Rome visit, June 2008 - 57 There I was, all alone, just minding my own business, typing away on the computer. I wasn’t doing anything particularly demanding and my mind was just wandering.

Later that evening I was expecting to meet a friend, lets call her Molly, and I idly imagined how our conversation would go.

I had just found out that a plan of mine wasn’t going to work out, and I imagined telling Molly how it had all gone pear shaped.

As we ‘talked’ in my imagination, I imagined her response to the news, somehow it sounded critical and a little patronising. “Hey, just a minute, that’s not fair!” I thought, getting a little annoyed.

Have you ever had imaginary arguments?

Preparing for conversations that are due to happen later, or rehashing conversations and arguments that have already occurred.

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