Tracking Down The Right Memory With 3 Questions

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A central tenet of EFT / Tapping is that most of our emotional problems have a history. We learn unhelpful feelings and limiting beliefs in situations that are embedded in our memory and play out in our current lives, long after the original experience is over.

One of an EFT Practitioner’s jobs is finding and neutralising the memories of where problems start, thus neutralising the unhelpful feelings that came out of that experience.

There are lots of ways to identify these formative memories.

Practitioners may ask their clients:

  • What does this remind you of?
  • When did this problem start?
  • etc

These are all good questions, and I’d like to introduce you to a sequence of three questions that are an easy and effective way of finding the ‘original memory’ of that feeling.

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What Does Intention Tapping Add To EFT?

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Since Gary Craig invented Tapping / EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) back in the 1990’s there has been an explosion of different varieties of ‘tapping techniques’.

One new addition to the field are the Intentional Energy Processes (IEP) created by psychologist and performance coach Steve Wells (co-creator of Simple Energy Techniques and Provocative Energy Techniques).

While IEP is recognisable as a tapping technique it differs from standard EFT in important ways.

In this article I’m going to explain my understandings of those differences and what, in my opinion, makes IEP (sometimes known as Intention Tapping) a very powerful addition to the tapping techniques family. (I’m going to assume that you are already familiar with EFT/Tapping).

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The Road Of Fire And Ice

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Imagine you are driving down a road.

It’s a wide road and you are the only car on the road.

This road is very strange.

On one side there is a raging forest fire that reaches right up to the edge, on the other there is a deep cold lake covered by a thin layer of ice.

Your car is also very strange.

You can turn the wheel to steer the car but it also has a special feature where the wheel will turn itself when you feel emotional distress. It will turn left or right (you’re never sure which) and the stronger the distress the further the wheel will turn.

You have to drive along this road you have no choice.

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EFT Cafe – Tapping Into Skill – 12th June 2019

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We can all think of skills we would like to have, or would like to be able to do better.

One way of developing skills is by using mental rehearsal to practice them in our minds before we put them into practice in the real world. Athletes and musicians are well known for using mental rehearsal techniques to improve their performance.

Just because we are not athletes or musicians doesn’t mean don’t use mental rehearsal for figuring out how to do something. If you have ever lain awake at night figuring out how best to approach an interview, presentation or doing something new, you will know what I mean.

Unfortunately many of us mentally rehearse all the ways things will feel bad or go wrong. This kind of mental rehearsal doesn’t help us get the results we want.

This is where tapping can help us take the kinks out of our mental rehearsal and improve our chances of success when we try those (new) skills in the real world.

In this months EFT Cafe on Wednesday 12th June Andy Hunt will demonstrate a simple way of using tapping to help our mental rehearsals and performance.

The EFT Cafe is held at St Oswald’s Hospice, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10.

Intention Tapping Is Not Just For Soothing Angry Drivers

A few weeks ago I visited my sister who still lives in my home town in rural North Wales.

This area is criss crossed with narrow roads that don’t normally see much traffic. One morning I was driving down one of these roads through a 300 metre single track section stuck between a dry stone wall on one side and an earth bank on the other.

Fortunately, this road isn’t used very much and it is unusual to run into someone on this particular stretch … but of course I did.

I came face to face with another car, full of young men, heading in the opposite direction.

When we stopped, facing each other, he was just 5 metres past a small widening of the road I could have squeezed into to let him pass. I was about 100 metres passed a similar passing place.

I smiled and shrugged at the other driver expecting him to back up so I could get past.

He had different ideas.

He flicked his hand at me in a dismissive ‘you back up’ gesture.

I cursed and started to back up.

A 100 metres later I squeezed into a passing place and he drove past without so much as a nod of acknowledgement.

Attachment Leads To Suffering

I sat there for a few seconds cursing and grumbling about the youth of today.

Even though nobody was hurt and nothing was damaged I was suffering.

I fumed about:

  • how arrogant he was (obviously they must have been louts!)
  • that he should have backed up to let me past
  • I should have made him back up
  • he should have been more considerate
  • he should have been more friendly
  • he should at least of said thank you
  • etc.
  • etc.
  • etc.

I was thoroughly emotionally attached to my story about how I had been wronged and it hurt.

Of course I could have used standard EFT/Tapping to soothe all this righteous indignation: neutralising the memory and resolving each of these (very annoying) aspects of the ‘problem’.

But I didn’t do that, instead, I did a few rounds of tapping using the Intention Tapping created by Australian Psychologist and tapping expert Steve Wells.

This is a very simple way of freeing ourselves from our attachment to our distress.

The process is simplicity itself I tapped a few rounds on:

"I release all my emotional attachments to that incident" and "I release all my emotional attachments to the $%#!% idiot driving that car"

The incident that had so upset me very quickly became just something that happened.

Of course most problems are much worse than having to reversing down narrow country roads, but whatever the issue there is likely to be an emotional attachment to the issue that is painful.

The issues could be:

  • Memories or traumatic experiences
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Our fantasies about what bad things will happen in the future AKA anxiety and apprehension.
  • Excessive rumination and thinking
  • etc.

These can be difficult experiences in themselves, but adding emotional attachment to them can make them much worse.

That’s where Steve’s intention based tapping can help. It helps us let go of our attachment to our issues.

Steve Wells Intention Tapping Workshop – London

Steve Wells is running an Intention Tapping workshop this autumn in London and I’m delighted to be helping organise one of his infrequent visits to the UK.

This new workshop on the use of Intention Tapping for working with the core beliefs that drive your life; beliefs relating to your Vision, Values, Identity, Goals and Purpose: these core beliefs profoundly influence your life and your work.

Since learning the Intention Tapping techniques I have found them to be a powerful addtion to my ‘tapping toolkit’ so I am also looking forward to learning how to better use these techniques with my clients.

This is what I said about Steve’s last workshop in Manchester in 2018

“The speed and ease of this process makes it very powerful and wide ranging in a way that standard EFT/tapping (which is excellent) can’t manage. It’s the difference between ‘hunt and peck’ typing and touch typing – both create words but one is much easier than the other.

Apart from the speed the other wow factor for me is the harnessing of the unconscious mind to do what it does best by following its own links and associations which are hidden from our own conscious mind.

In my opinion the combination of power and grace in the ‘Intention Tapping’ processes are worth their weight in gold.”

As you can see, I have a very high opinion of Steve and his workshops.

Bonus workshop: After the weekend workshop there is also a bonus Practitioner only day for people who want to use Intention Tapping (IEP) to work with trauma in their clients.

You can find out more about both Intention Tappings workshops here

Workshop Details

Weekend Intention Tapping Workshop

Saturday 26 October 2019, 9.30am – 5.30pm

Sunday 27 October 2019, 9.30am – 5.30pm

Extra Practitioners Trauma Release Day

Monday 28 October 2019, 9.30am – 5.30pm

Venue

Grange White Hall Hotel
2-5 Montague Street
London, WC1B

Registration Fees

2-day Power of Intention Tapping Workshop (26-27 Oct)

  • Super Earlybird: £295 (if you register by 31 May 2019)
  • Earlybird: £345 (if paid after 31 May and prior to 31 July 2019)
  • Full Fee: £395 (if you register after 31 July 2019)

Click here to book your place on this workshop

2-Day Workshop PLUS Extra Practitioners Day (26-28 Oct)

  • Super Earlybird: £395 (if you register by 31 May 2019
  • Earlybird: £445 (if paid after 31 May and prior to 31 July 2019)
  • Full Fee: £495 (if you register after 31 July 2019)

Click here to book your place on BOTH workshops

EFT Cafe – 8th May 2019 – Doodle Tapping

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Feelings can be tricky.

Sometimes they can be both overwhelming and complicated, which can make them hard to work with using standard tapping process.

My friend and colleague Masha Bennett created ‘Doodle Tapping’ seven years ago to help her clients process difficult emotional states. She recently shared this simple process with me and I’ve since used it for myself and with clients with surprising results.

In this week’s EFT Cafe Andy Hunt will demonstrate ‘Doodle Tapping’ and how it can be used in a variety of situations (all materials will be provided).

The EFT Cafe is from 7pm – 9pm on the 8th May at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre in Newcastle and costs £10.

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