From Carl Rogers To Identity Healing

Tony Mudd Memorial Lecture
Tony Mudd Memorial Lecture
On 22nd March 2018 I had the pleasure of presenting this talk to an audience of counsellors and counselling students at Tyne Met College.

It’s a personal account of the development of the Identity Healing processes that I use with my clients.

The talk is about how a shy introverted teenager who didn’t feel quite good enough developed the process that helped him and helps others.

This 40 year journey includes encounter groups, Carl Rogers, Buddhism, NLP, introductions to inner children, EFT (aka Tapping), how our younger selves get stuck and one way of getting unstuck.

Note: I recorded the talk on my phone so the sound quality is a little bit variable in places.

EFT Cafe – 14th March 2018 – Tapping Into Metaphors

The world in your handsWe are built to think in metaphors.

If you are down in the dumps, as high as a kite, or at a crossroads in your life you are thinking in metaphors.

We understand the world and how it works through metaphor. We do this so easily and naturally that we barely notice it is happening.

Our metaphors of life, work, relationships and the world shape the way with think and feel.

In this week’s EFT Cafe join Andy Hunt to explore tapping with metaphors using a structured, step by step, tapping process.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th March at 7pm at St Oswald’s Hospice from 7pm to 9pm.

Tapping Into (And Out Of) The Resistance To The Resistance With IEP


“What you resist persists”
– Carl Jung

The resistance and I go way back.

I have been very creative in finding ways to avoid and delay important work.

I have also been very creative in finding ways to identify and dismantle limiting beliefs and feelings so that I can move past the resistance and get things done.

Recently I noticed that I was avoiding doing some important work, then I noticed that I was avoiding working with the resistance and that got me thinking.

Our culture is full of references to working / fighting / overcoming the resistance to get to our goals. Books like (the excellent) “The War Of Art” by Stephen Pressfield talk about overcoming resistance, pushing through the things that get in our way to reach our goal.

We are encouraged to resist our resistance, to struggle with it and overcome it (even if that feels like wading through treacle).

Unfortunately, I’m rather more lazy than heroic, so my struggles have often been half hearted.

I realised that all the time I spent struggling with my resistance could be better spent doing the thing I was resisting. It dawned on me that struggling with my resistance was a large part of the resistance.

So how do (did) I struggle with my resistance?

Read moreTapping Into (And Out Of) The Resistance To The Resistance With IEP

EFT Cafe – 14th Feb 2018 – WOOPing & WOOTing

PlansIt’s an accepted part of the self-help culture in the West that visualising your success ‘attracts’ that success to you, making it more likely that you will achieve your goals.

Unfortunately that idea doesn’t stand up well to research. Many research studies have shown that people who just visualise their success are less likely to achieve their goes.

In ‘Rethinking Postive Thinking’ Gabrielle Oettingen, who is responsible for a lot of the research on visualisation, shows that a simple change to the visualise your success approach can make a big improvement to your chances of success.

She calls her four step process WOOP:

  • Wish – what do you want to achieve.
  • Outcome – how will it make you feel when you achieve it.
  • Obstacle – what obstacles will get in your way
  • Plan – what plan can you make to deal with those obstacles.

It’s a very simple process (you can find out more on that I’ve been experimenting with.

One of the things I’ve noticed is that the Obstacles are often limiting beliefs – these limiting beliefs are amenable to tapping – which leads to WOOT:

  • Wish – what do you want to achieve
  • Outcome – how would fulfilling that wish make you feel when you get it.
  • Obstacle – may be a limiting belief
  • Tapping – resolving the limiting belief

Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe to explore WOOPing and WOOTing on Wednesday 14th February, 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne

Defuse and Aspire: A Two Stage Tapping Process To Prepare For Challenging Situations

ReadyOne of the many things life is good at is presenting us with challenging situations.

We might have to speak in public, go through difficult medical procedures, visit relatives we can’t stand, deal with angry customers and do many more things that we would prefer not to.

You could just grit your teeth and get on with it or you could use tapping processes to ease your apprehension and find the resources you need to be the best you can be in that situation.

So, you might start looking for tapping scripts that ‘work’ for your problem. You might hope with just a few rounds of tapping that you can go from stressed / distressed / anxious / terrified to calm / centred / happy / relaxed.

It’s a simple solution that probably won’t work.

In a culture that values ‘positive’ feelings and rejects (or fears) ‘negative’ feelings many people focus on getting past feeling bad to feeling good as quickly as possible. They hope that if the tapping ends on a high note then all will be well.

In the understandable desire for (premature) reassurance we try to speed past difficult feelings and get to the enjoyable ones.

Unfortunately, to genuinely access your emotional resources it’s more effective to resolve what gets in their way.

Read moreDefuse and Aspire: A Two Stage Tapping Process To Prepare For Challenging Situations

Tapping: When You Don’t Know The Right Words IKEA Can Help!

IKEAOne of the questions most often asked by people who are new to tapping is “What words do I use?”.

This is an understandable question, but it’s not a very useful one.

Newcomers are often dazzled by the linguistic abilities of their tapping teachers.

It may look like what you say is fundamental to success in EFT, but the words you use might be the least important part of the EFT protocol.

Tapping expert Gene Monterastelli elegantly describes the EFT process as:

Stimulation (tapping) plus Attention leads to Relief.

The words are there to direct you or your client’s attention to what needs to be soothed, it’s the tapping that does the work.

If you are still convinced that you need to find the exact words to get good tapping results I’d like to invite you to try this little experiment.

All you will need is a feeling and an IKEA catalogue or access to their website.

Read moreTapping: When You Don’t Know The Right Words IKEA Can Help!

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