EFT Cafe – 12th September 2018 – The Polarity Process

Polarity ProcessThe Polarity Process, designed by Steve Wells is a way of systematically softening our negative self-beliefs by working with the good and the bad of the ‘negative’ belief and its opposite the ‘positive’ belief.

By systematically processing the pros and cons of our limiting beliefs we can relax them into something more useful (and find greater self acceptance while doing it).

Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe at 7pm on Wednesday 12th September to find out how to use this process.

The EFT Cafe is held at St Oswald’s Hospice, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10.

Practice Safe EFT For Better Self Help

Stay safeMost of us experience moderate amounts of stress or distress in our lives. Some of us experience huge amounts of stress and distress that can make our lives a misery.

Naturally people want to feel better.

The self-help shelves at the book store groan under the weight of all the self-help books offering techniques and approaches to relieve your suffering. EFT books are finding their way on to those shelves in increasing numbers.

In the online age advice and suggestions for tapping self help are all around us. If you Google EFT + ‘your problem’ you are likely to be overwhelmed with suggestions. You may be invited to tap along with videos and scripts, sign up for courses and download ebooks designed to help you resolve this, that or the other, problem.

We are very lucky to have EFT/Tapping available as a powerful self-help tool, but there’s good news and bad news.

The good news is that EFT/Tapping is very powerful, it can reach deep issues and process difficult emotions. In the hands of a skilled practitioner who knows what to do and how to do it you can make a great deal of progress at relieving your stress and soothing your distress.

The bad news is that EFT/Tapping is very powerful, it can reach deep issues and process difficult emotions. In the hands of someone who doesn’t know what they are doing it may not work at all, or it may ‘work’ too well and you will get into emotional trouble that can be hard to get out of.

That’s one of the reasons why working with a good practitioner is so helpful, they know what to do, how to do it and how to keep you safe while you are doing it.

If you are using EFT/Tapping for yourself you are both your own therapist and your own client. It’s important not to bite off more than you can chew.

Read morePractice Safe EFT For Better Self Help

Would You Label A Baby?

NewbornImagine that one of your best friends has just had a baby.

You visit her to congratulate her and see the newborn. She hands you a tiny bundle, the child’s sleepy eyes look up at you as a tiny hand grips your massive finger.

After a delightful while you return the baby to your friend.

Your friend looks down at the baby and says :

“You are worthless”

“Your are not good enough”

“You are a failure”

What would you think?

You would probably be shocked and you would almost certainly disagree.

You would argue that it was ridiculous and cruel for her to label a newborn child in this way.

No one starts off worthless, not good enough or a failure; that is something you are taught to believe about yourself along the way.

You might have been taught very well and come to believe these labels implicitly and even blame yourself for being that way.

Take one of the critical thoughts you have about yourself – one of those damning descriptions you know to be true.

Imagine, once again, that you are going to visit a friend who has just had a baby.

When you get there you realise, with a start, that the friend is your mother and the newborn baby is you.

Your mother hands you the tiny bundle that is you, the child’s sleepy eyes look up at you as a tiny hand grips your massive finger.

Look into that baby’s eyes and try to apply your damming description to her (or him).

Does that description really fit?

If it doesn’t fit the newborn you then you must have learned this idea about yourself along the way and if you still believe that description is true then you have been well taught indeed.

In either case what has been learned can be unlearned.

One definition of therapy might be unlearning what isn’t true (even if it seems like it is).

Full disclosure: the overall idea for this post came from a suggestion at the end of this article about Self Acceptance and Self Rejection by Steve Andreas.

Who I work with

One of the challenges of working in private practice is explaining clearly who you work with and what troubles them.

I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to do that effectively and, quite by accident, I come across a poignant video that does that job perfectly.

This is who I work with

Our common fate from Rikke Kjelgaard on Vimeo.

BTW I won’t try to fix you … you’re not broken (even if you feel like you are).

Why Short, Online EFT ‘Practitioner Trainings’ Are A Bad Idea

Online courses are appearing everywhere.

They are short, convenient, inexpensive and easy to access wherever you are in the world.

What’s not to like?

If the course is offering you a ‘Practitioner Certificate’ for watching a few hours (or less) video and reading a couple of articles then there is quite a lot not to like.

In the video above I had a quick rant about why I thought short online EFT ‘Practitioner’ courses are a bad idea.

This article is an in depth look at these courses and why they are well worth avoiding if you want to become a confident, competent practitioner of EFT.

I’m going to talk about EFT because that’s where I have the most experience but what follows applies equally well for NLP, Hypnotherapy or any other ‘healing skills’ being ‘taught’ in these courses.

There are lots of different online courses available, but this article focuses on the trainings that are:

  • Low cost
  • Low effort – you only need to watch videos and read articles.
  • Short duration – anything from 39 minutes (!) to 8 hours.
  • Implying or promising that you will be able to use your new skills with other people.
  • Promise you some kind of ‘Practitioner Certificate’ of some sort when you have completed the course.
  • One way only – that is you get no observation or feedback from the trainer during the training.
  • One off – there is no continuing support after the training

All that glisters is not gold

These courses often have impressive, official sounding titles:

  • EFT / TFT Tapping Master Practitioner Certification (Expert)
  • EFT & TFT Tapping Practitioner Certification
  • Professional Accredited EFT Diploma Course

They always promise amazing results

  • Become an awesome EFT Practitioner
  • Help others to rid themselves of negative and disempowering emotions
  • Uncover the deeper levels of helping that EFT and TFT can provide

If you are thinking of taking such a course because you want to become an ‘EFT Practitioner’ please look elsewhere.

If you are emotionally distressed and thinking of taking your problems to an ‘EFT Practitioner’ who has only taken a short online course please look elsewhere.

Read moreWhy Short, Online EFT ‘Practitioner Trainings’ Are A Bad Idea

EFT Level 1 Training – September 2018 – Newcastle Upon Tyne

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as ‘Tapping’, is a simple, yet very effective, healing process that uses your body’s built in stress relief system.

By tapping with your fingertips on the ends of acupuncture meridians you can reduce, or eliminate, all types of negative emotions including fears, anger, phobias, grief, traumatic memories, stress and anxiety.

Learning EFT/Tapping at these workshops may be helpful for people who:

  • suffer from stress – they can feel as if life is getting too much for them and they are struggling to cope with their emotional challenges.
  • experience anxiety – they might find that simple experiences trigger unnecessary fear or apprehension.
  • are upset by unhappy memories – they find that there are some memories that they just can’t let go of, even remembering them is distressing and stressful.
  • have unwanted emotional reactions to people or situations – they may react to situations or people in ways that they don’t like but feel unable to change.
  • feel that their emotions are out of control – it’s as if their emotions have a mind of their own, no matter what they do they still feel bad when they think they shouldn’t.
  • have a busy or troubled mind – they go over difficult memories or imaginings time after time, getting nowhere but feeling bad about it.
  • want ways to manage cravings – they would like not to have to struggle to resist chocolate, cigarrettes, wine, junk TV and many other unwanted temptations.
  • would like to treat common aches and pains– they want a simple technique that help them ease their own physical discomforts.
  • would like more peace of mind – they just want to be more comfortable in their body and mind.

If that sounds like you this two-day AAMET EFT Level 1 Foundations Training is designed to give you a thorough introduction to EFT and give you the skills and confidence to use it in everyday life

The training includes:

  • An introduction to the history and principles of EFT.
  • How to use EFT to take the stress and distress out of everyday problems.
  • How to neutralise unpleasant memories with EFT.
  • Using EFT to ease cravings and sooth physical discomfort.
  • How to use EFT in daily life to be less stressed and more effective.

Important: These EFT Level 1 Training courses are designed to show you how to use EFT to relieve your own issues and to do simple work with family and friends. This is not a substitute for personal therapy, nor will it train you to be an EFT therapist in your own right, though you may use the certificate to attend an EFT Level 2 course for further training.

The course includes a full manual and all training materials. At the end of the training day you will receive an AAMET EFT Level 1 Attendance Certificate which is required if you want to progress to the EFT Level 2 training to add EFT to your professional tool box.

This training is fully self-contained and open to all, after attending you will be able to use EFT confidently for a variety of issues. If you want to go further, developing your EFT skills for working with other people, it serves as the foundation for the Level 2 / AAMET EFT Practitioner course.

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR PLACE

The Early Bird fee of £135 ends at midnight 3rd August 2018.
Thereafter, the Full fee is £195 (there are only 8 places available on this training).

%d bloggers like this: