Christmas can be a stressful time for many people.
It is often an obstacle course of obligations, expectations and predicaments that seem to be designed to end peace on earth and drain anyone of their goodwill.
But Christmas is not the problem, how we cope with Christmas is the problem, and that is something we work with.
This month’s EFT Cafe is about two tapping techniques designed to defuse festive stresses and strains before they’ve even happened and put some of the peace, goodwill and festive spirit back into your Christmas experience.
Important: Even though these processes are being applied to the holiday season, these techniques are not just for Christmas they’re for life!
This EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th December 2017 from 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne.
Humans are complicated (you may have noticed), not only do we have feelings about our circumstances we can have feelings (and thoughts) about our feelings.
If you are resigned to your sadness, anxious about your anxiety or angry at your weakness, etc then the feelings you have are going to be harder deal with.
These ‘meta-emotions’ can keep us stuck in unhelpful and uncomfortable emotional states.
If you feel kind towards your sadness you will have a very different experience that if you feel defeated by it.
Most of the time we just notice how we feel about something, not how we feel (and think) about feeling something, but being able to identify and work with the thoughts and feelings about our feelings can make a big difference to our emotional lives. Changing how we feel about our feelings changes the quality of our experience
In this month’s EFT Cafe, Andy Hunt will present a variety of ways of working with feelings about feelings.
The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 11th October 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10
If you are familiar with EFT/Tapping you probably know about ‘The Choices Method’ developed by Pat Carrington as a skilful means to bring positive emotions into tapping processes.
In the Choices Method elegantly shifts the tapper from an unhelpful state into something much more positive.
The shift from the negative to the positive is achieved by tapping using the phrase “I choose to [some positive feeling or outcome]” to help access their innate resources.
However if the tapper can choose to feel good, doesn’t that imply that they may have chosen to feel bad in the first place?
Loosely based on the work of NLP Trainer Kevin Creedon and William Glasser M.D. creator of Choice Theory, September’s EFT Cafe is about using the idea that we choose our emotional state (good or bad) to help us let go of the feelings that are troubling us.
Find out about The Paradoxical Choices Method in this month’s EFT Café is on Wednesday 13th September 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10
Tapping/EFT is an excellent self-help tool. It’s a simple way to soothe emotional stress and remove personal difficulties.
All you need to do is notice what is going on in your thoughts and feelings, then direct your tapping to soothe those troublesome memories, emotions or beliefs.
Using EFT on memories, emotions or beliefs can be quite straightforward, especially if you know what to tap on.
But sometimes it can be difficult to use tapping for self-help, because it can be hard to tap for ourselves, while we are in the middle of what we are tapping on.
Working on your own stuff can be difficult because:
When you are on the inside of the problem you are affected by the feelings and emotions of that problem. If the problem is upsetting or scary you will be upset or scared. It’s difficult to do good work if you are feeling strong emotions.
When you are inside the problem you see the problem through the perspective of the problem, it is as if you are wearing ‘problem goggles’. For example: if the problem is that you think there is nothing you can do to help yourself, that belief will get in the way of working on that belief because you will think there is nothing you can do to help yourself.
When you are inside a problem it’s hard to see what’s going on – it’s easier to read the label when you are outside the jar. Being a human is complicated. We are full of contradictory thoughts, feelings and responses, in so much confusion it can be difficult to see what is important. To people on the outside it might be obvious, but when you are on the inside it’s not so clear.
This is why working with another person who can see what you can’t see and guide your tapping accordingly can be so helpful.
A skilled EFT practitioner won’t be feeling what you are feeling, they won’t be wearing your ‘problem goggles’ and from the outside they can sometimes see what is going on in us more clearly.
But, there is never another tapper around when you need one!
What if you could more easily see what needs to be done and more easily work with it?
3rd Person tapping helps you be both on the inside and outside of the problem.
By asking surprisingly simple questions we can work with our stuff as if we were someone else and gain a little extra distance and perspective to help our tapping do the work it needs to do.