EFT Cafe – 11th October 2017 – Changing By Changing Your Feelings About Your Feelings.

Chained to a feelingHow do you feel about your feelings?

Humans are complicated (you may have noticed), not only do we have feelings about our circumstances we can have feelings (and thoughts) about our feelings.

If you are resigned to your sadness, anxious about your anxiety or angry at your weakness, etc then the feelings you have are going to be harder deal with.

These ‘meta-emotions’ can keep us stuck in unhelpful and uncomfortable emotional states.

If you feel kind towards your sadness you will have a very different experience that if you feel defeated by it.

Most of the time we just notice how we feel about something, not how we feel (and think) about feeling something, but being able to identify and work with the thoughts and feelings about our feelings can make a big difference to our emotional lives. Changing how we feel about our feelings changes the quality of our experience

In this month’s EFT Cafe, Andy Hunt will present a variety of ways of working with feelings about feelings.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 11th October 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

EFT Café – 13th September 2017 – The Paradoxical Choices Method

Paradoxical ChoicesIf you are familiar with EFT/Tapping you probably know about ‘The Choices Method’ developed by Pat Carrington as a skilful means to bring positive emotions into tapping processes.

In the Choices Method elegantly shifts the tapper from an unhelpful state into something much more positive.

The shift from the negative to the positive is achieved by tapping using the phrase “I choose to [some positive feeling or outcome]” to help access their innate resources.

However if the tapper can choose to feel good, doesn’t that imply that they may have chosen to feel bad in the first place?

Loosely based on the work of NLP Trainer Kevin Creedon and William Glasser M.D. creator of Choice Theory, September’s EFT Cafe is about using the idea that we choose our emotional state (good or bad) to help us let go of the feelings that are troubling us.

Find out about The Paradoxical Choices Method in this month’s EFT Café is on Wednesday 13th September 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

EFT Café – 14th June 2017 – Tapping In The 3rd Person For Better Self Help

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You probably know that EFT/Tapping is a great technique for working with emotional distress and personal difficulties.

However, sometimes it can be tricky to use as a self-help technique because we are in the middle of what we are tapping on.

When we are on the inside of the problem we may be affected by the emotions of the problem itself and it’s hard to have a clear perspective on the problem when you are in it.

It’s hard to read the label when you are inside the jar.

This is why working with another person can be so helpful. They are on the outside of our distress – they don’t feel it and they can sometimes see what is going on more clearly.

But there is never another tapper around when you need one!

What if you could take a more dispassionate perspective when you are working on your own stuff?

What if you could more easily see what needs to be done and more easily work with it?

3rd Person tapping helps you do just that. By asking surprisingly simple questions we can work with ourselves as if we were someone else and gain a little bit of extra distance and perspective to help our tapping do the work it needs to do.

Find out about ‘3rd Person Tapping’ in this month’s EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th June 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

EFT Café – 10th May 2017 – Process Mapping For Better Tapping

Process Mapping
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It’s easy to think of problems, aggravations and blocks as single things – a blob of ‘negative’ emotion that just needs to be tapped away.

But most of our annoyances and hindrances are  more complicated than that.

What, on the face of it, seems to be solid ‘things’ are more often multi-step processes that get us where we don’t want to be.

This is why general tapping on an annoyance or hindrance can be be slow and difficult, we need a way to be more specific to allow tapping into the mechanism to disrupt it.

In this month’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will present (with the help of some post it notes) Process Mapping, a step by step way of unpacking annoyances and hindrances that make it easier to direct our tapping to the heart of the problem and make better progress

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 10th May 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

EFT Cafe – 12th April 2017 – Decisions, decisions, decisions!

Decisions
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We have to make decisions all the time.

From the moment we awaken to the moment we fall asleep we have to decide what to do next.

Some decisions are easy: Which biscuit should I have with my cup of tea?

Some are much harder: Should I buy this house or that one? Should I take this job? Should I marry this man?

Sometimes there is a still clear voice that lets us know what to do. At other times that voice is drowned out by cacophony of contradictory thoughts, feelings and ideas.

In this month’s EFT Café on Andy Hunt will guide you through a process based on an idea by Gene Monterastelli to help you clear the static around making decisions and allow that still quiet voice to have it’s say.

This process wont be able to make the decision for you, but it will help you get clear about what you want to do.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 12th April 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

EFT Cafe – 8th March 2017 – The Top Ten Procedure

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Sometimes EFT / Tapping can seem a little bit complicated.

  • How do I decide what is important?
  • How do I choose what to tap on?
  • What scores does this feeling have?
  • How do I know what to tap on next?
  • How do I know when to stop?

The Top Ten Procedure is a simple general purpose tapping protocol that does away with a detailed analysis of the problem state and allows even novice tappers to make good progress in soothing difficult situations.

The process was developed by Charlie Curtis an EFTer with strong NLP and hypnotherapy experience.

This simple routine can be used to work on specific issues or for more general out of sorts feelings.

Join Andy Hunt at this month’s EFT Cafe to find out how to use this simple tapping process.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 8th March 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

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