Mr Rogers On Seeing The Newtown News Differently

After the recent traumatic events in Newtown, Connecticut it would be easy to lose hope under the weight of media coverage.

The news media focuses relentlessly on the violence and destruction of the event and the pain and grief of the victims and their families. Just watching the news can be a traumatising event (and just in case we don’t feel badly enough the media repeats the horror for us at regular intervals).

It’s very difficult to resist this onslaught of other people’s pain on display. It can be hard to keep any hope or optimism about the world and its inhabitants, but you don’t need to focus on what the media tell you is important.

You can direct your attention to another part of what you are seeing to engage a different perspective.

This quote from Fred Rogers an American TV presenter for children in the 60’s and 70’s demonstrates that you can find something other than despair in what you are shown and told.

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

To this day, especially in times of “disaster,” I remember my mother’s words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world.”

This is a very different way of looking at calamity.

It won’t undo the tragedy of Newtown or ease the grief of those directly involved, but for those of us who are only “video bystanders” of what went on, it might be a helpful way to remind ourselves that there is some goodness in the world.

This quote comes from Brene Brown’s website Ordinary Courage

What is the difference between resignation and acceptance?

Resignation and acceptance are two ways of dealing with difficult circumstances.

Resignation: Something bad has happened and there is nothing I can do … sigh ….

Acceptance: Something has happened (which I don’t like) and what can I do next?

Even though they are very different, many people (especially those prone to resignation), think they are the same.

Given the choice (and you are), which would you choose?

EFT Café – Dec 12th – Surviving And Thriving Over Christmas

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Christmas can be a stressful time for many people.

You may have to spend time with challenging people when you would rather be on your own, or be on your own when you would rather be with people.

However you spend the holiday period it may bring with it stress or distress.

This month’s EFT Cafe is all about being able to handle the festive stresses and strains. Using EFT to resolve any anxieties and apprehensions about the holidays and then work on being the person you want to be over Christmas.

In this month’s EFT Cafe, Andy Hunt will present a new process that will help you relieve the stress and help you become your better self for the festive season.

This process is all about how to be different in challenging situations.

Important: Even though this process is being applied to the holiday season, this technique is not just for Christmas it’s for life.

The December EFT Cafe is on Wednesday December 12th from 7pm to 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne.

The cost is just £10.

If you are an AAMET practitioner of EFT this event counts as 2 hours of CPD.

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