The Compound Interest Of Suffering And Freedom

“Compound interest arises when interest is added to the principal, so that from that moment on, the interest that has been added also itself earns interest.”

Stress
It’s so easy to forget that we have EFT to use as a day-to-day tool to make life a bit easier.

When disaster strikes and we have major upsets or trauma to deal with it’s obvious that we need to deal with it.  Major problems are easy to spot and hard to ignore, with EFT you have an excellent tool for working with these difficulties, but what about the day-to-day stuff?

Many of the minor discomforts and problems that we experience on a day-to-day basis seem too small to bother about, we tend to get on with things and not bother tapping on it.

Most of these incidents aren’t so bad, a little dip in our mood and then we are back on track. A lot of life’s challenges give you repetitive and annoying little jolts of stress or distress that we work through every day.

Let’s imagine that you have a work colleague who has a gift for upsetting you – something in the way they speak or look just gets you annoyed.

If you meet for just a few minutes each day it’s not so bad, you only have to speak to them for a few minutes and then it’s over until tomorrow.

At first glance that doesn’t look too bad, it’s “just one of those things”. But it is not just one of those things it’s just one of many of those things, which added up, over time, can cause you a lot of stress.

Each stressful situation you go through prepares you (in a bad way) for the next one.

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Only 4 Days To Go To The Autumn ChangeCamp

There are just four days to go before the 2011 Autumn ChangeCamp in Newcastle.

Presentations

As usual there is a great line up of presentations and presenters on all areas of the psychology of change. Mini workshops on Mindfulness, EFT, Metaphors, The Vision Quest to name just a few.

Here’s the full list:

A lot to enjoy and a lot to learn from.

Specialist Book Stall

Not only that, the Anglo American Book Company formed in 1992 in order to meet the specific needs of those interested in psychology, psychotherapy, counselling and personal growth will have a book stall at the event.

All this for just £15, just click here to sign up (or you can pay at the door)

Continuing Professional Development

If you are a therapist and need Continuing Professional Development then we are offering Attendance Certificates for your portfolio. ChangeCamp is opportunity to broaden your mind and add to your portfolio

Community

As well as the presentations there is also a chance to spend time getting to know people who are interested in personal and professional development. There is a special pleasure in being in the company of like minded individuals. The breaks and shared lunch are an excellent opportunity to make new friends.

All this for just £15

Join us this Saturday for the Autumn ChangeCamp by clicking this button (or you can pay at the door)

Are You Dragging An Invisible Truck?

Let’s imagine that, like someone in a strong man contest, you are harnessed to an invisible 10 tonne truck.

Wherever you go, whatever you do you have to drag this truck behind you and it is hard work.

Now, let’s imagine that you want to go on a family picnic to the seaside.

It’s a beautiful day, there’s not a cloud in the sky and the fine beach is just a short distance away. But you are harnessed to this invisible truck and where you go, it goes.

There are two approaches you can take to going on your picnic:

Plan A.

You recognise it might be an effort so you start to train: working out on weights machines, eating high protein power foods. Bulking up your muscles for the struggle of getting you and the truck to the beach.

You know it’s going to be tough so you start listening to motivational speakers giving you all the encouragement you need to smash through your resistance, power through your problems on the way to your glorious goal.

You spend time everyday visualising the happy faces of your family enjoying fun in the sun on a day out to the beach.

When you are ready, when you have prepared physically and psyched yourself up for the big day you and your invisible truck start out towards the beach.

It’s a huge struggle. You (wo)manfully strain against the weight of the truck, pulling with all your might. Perspiration breaks out on your skin as you strain at the ropes. Painfully slowly you start to move in the direction you want to go. Your progress is slow, marked by grunts and curses.

If you are lucky you get to the beach physically and emotionally wrecked, or you give up, go home feeling beaten and you order another, even stronger, motivational recording.

or

Plan B.

You undo the harness, leave the truck behind, and walk down to the beach to enjoy a great day out.

So which approach would you choose?

Call me a slacker, but I would choose Plan B.

But there is a problem with Plan B.

If you are harnessed to an invisible truck that holds you back, you can’t see the truck or the harness. You can feel the resistance and the struggle when you move towards your goals but you don’t know what is causing it or how to get over it. You may have been struggling like this for a very long time and now it seems that this is just the way things are.

If you could only see the truck and the harness you might be able to undo the buckles and get on with what you want to do without that painful struggle.

At the Getting Out Of Your Own Way workshop on November 19th 2011 in Newcastle, I will be showing you how to uncover the invisible barriers to your progress and how to undo them using EFT.

Using these techniques it can be surprisingly easy to get free of that dead weight, or would you prefer to keep dragging your invisible truck around?

Image courtesy of Steven Snodgrass

Unjam A To-Do List With EFT By Escaping The "I Should Do" Trap

To-do listDo you have things that you should do?

Many people have to do lists that are packed with things they should do that get done very reluctantly or don’t get done at all

If you should do something it implies an expectation that others want you to do something.

As children our parents, teachers and others tell us what we should do and we learn what is important to the people who are telling us what to do. Because we are kids we usually go along with these shoulds with varying degrees of resistance.

Most people don’t like being told what to do, ask any 2 year old.  As children we often put up what resistance we can to the instructions as either a flat refusal, or some kind of foot dragging.

When we grow up and have things that we want to do we can carry the language and experience of ‘should’ into our adult behaviour.

We want to do something and we tell ourselves we should do our accounts, mow the lawn, wash up, make that phone call.
That’s when the trouble starts.

Whenever we put a should in front of something we want to do then we set ourselves up to resist we want to complete the task.

You might like to try this experiment.

Pick an item from your to do list that has been un-done for a while – for example “I should tidy the garage”

Say out loud “I should … “ , giving it a score from 0 to 10 on how true it is where 0 is completely false and 10 is completely true.

Now, say out loud “I don’t want to …”, giving that a score from 0 to 10.

Now, say out loud “I want to …”, give that a score from 0 to 10.

For many people a strong “I should …” score has a strong element of  “I don’t want to …” added to it.

If you found this to be the case, congratulations you just uncovered an internal conflict that might have something to do with you not being able to complete the task. Unconscious resistance will make you avoid doing the task or have you drag your feet so that it takes far longer than it needs to.

Having found this conflict it is suprisingly easy to dissolve with this simple tapping routine.

In this process we tap on the should directly, the expectation from others that this is the right thing to do, the resistance to doing it and finally about what you really want to do in this circumstance.

Instructions for the “Should do … ” tapping
Using “I should clear out the garage” as an example.

  1. Test how strong the should is
  2. Even though I should clear out the garage, I accept myself and how I feel x 3
  3. EB – I should clear out the garage
  4. SE – They want me to clear out the garage
  5. UE – I don’t want to clear out the garage
  6. UN – What do I want to do?
    Repeat this reminder set
  7. CH – I should clear out the garage
  8. CB – They want me to clear out the garage
  9. UA – I don’t want to clear out the garage
  10. TH – What do I want to do?
  11. Test how strong the should is now.
  12. Pay attention if one of these phrases provokes a reaction and be prepared to tap on whatever reaction, memories or thoughts that ar triggered.

If there is still a charge on the should, repeat the process.

When the should has been dissolved, test “I want to …” if the should was in line with your values this will test strong, if the should was coming from the outside and not in line with your values then this will test low and you need to decide what you want to do.

Pick an example from your to do list and try this process out.

In my and others experience resolving the should will make it a lot easier to do what needs to be done or lets you know what is important to you.

If you apply this process regularly to you to-do list items you should 🙂  find it much easier to get out of your own way.

On Saturday, November 19th, in Newcastle upon Tyne,  I am running a one-day workshop “Getting Out Of Your Own Way” where I will be teaching a complete process for resolving unconcious blocks and limiting beliefs about any project or goal.

Image courtesy of Florian

Getting Out Of Your Own Way – Nov 19th – Newcastle

Are you stuck?

Do you have projects, goals or outcomes that are taking you forever to get started or completed?

Do you get in your own way by procrastinating, avoiding what you need to do or fighting with yourself to do it?

Welcome to the ‘resistance’ – the unconscious blocks, fears and limiting beliefs that keep us from getting where we want to go.

There are two ways to deal with the resistance.

1. Tough it out

This is the traditional approach. Force yourself to do the work that needs to be done. Struggle through each task to get to your goal. You can do it this way (a lot of people do achieve great things this way) but it is a lot of effort and struggle.

Not only do you have to do the work required to reach your goal, you also have to do the hard work required to get yourself to do the work required to get you to your goal.

It’s a tiring and stressful way to achieve stuff.

2. Make it easier for yourself

This is a new way of doing things made possible by techniques such as EFT that let you easily change entrenched patterns of thought and feelings. In this approach you identify your blocks and limiting beliefs around a goal, dissolve them, then all you have to do is the work of the project.

This way you spend a little time at the beginning to clear your own resistance to your goal, when that is cleared you can do whatever needs to be done with yourself as an ally instead of an opponent.

If you want to know how to get out of your own way, there is a one day workshop “Getting Out Of Your Own Way” in Newcastle upon Tyne on Saturday 19th November that will show you how to do it.

All you need to do is bring an unrealised goal, outcome or project to this workshop where you will learn

  1. How to make sure that this is the right goal for you.
  2. How to uncover and  unpack the limiting beliefs and blocks that get in the way of achieving that goal
  3. How to dissolve the blocks you have found using specific EFT strategies developed for working with these kinds of issues.
  4. How to create a path to achieving that goal without being overwhelmed or confused

At the end of the day you will have a plan for achieving your goal and much less resistance than you started with. You will also have a technique that you can use with any other project or goal you want to undertake.

This workshop is for you if you get stuck in your own projects, or you work with people who do.

There are only two requirements.

  1. You need a goal or project that is proving difficult to achieve.
  2. Some prior experience of EFT, preferably EFT Level 1 or above

The workshop costs just £49.50 for the first four people to sign up, and £69.50 after that.

There are only 12 spaces available on this workshop so book early.

To find out more click here.

Click on Getting Out Of Your Own Way to book your place online.

Important: This workshop is about the “Law of Action” NOT the “Law of Attraction”. It is not about metaphysical manifestation of outcomes, it is about getting out of your own way so you are able to do the work that you need to do to get what you want.

EFT Level 1+ – December 3rd & 4th – Newcastle

AAMETThis AAMET approved course is for people who want to learn how to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), a simple and powerful self-help technique for themselves, family and friends. It is also the first step for counsellors and therapists who want to learn how to add these techniques to their toolboxes.

Why is this a two day training?

Most AAMET EFT Level 1 trainings take just one day so why a two day training?

There are a few reasons:

1. There is a lot to learn
There is a large amount of information and techniques to fit into a one day training. To cover the ground in the time available means that you don’t have much time to explore the techniques in much detail. It’s a whistle-stop tour through the basics, working with memories, dealing with cravings, and using EFT with physical issues. That is a lot of material to cover in a short space of time and it’s difficult to do it justice in one day.

2. To learn EFT you need to practice.
You can learn about EFT in a day, to learn how to use EFT you need to practice. The more practice you get the more you learn. In a one day Level 1 training it is only possible to give a limited amount of practical experience in the time available. In two days there is more time to practice, reflect on, and discuss what you are doing.

3. Practice gives confidence.
Many people have the experience of being bowled over by the results of EFT during a one day training. They are amazed and inspired by what they learn during the day, but when they get home they are not sure how to put their learning into practice without the trainer to ask. You need to have the practice to gain confidence in what you are doing and how to do it so that you can use it for yourself.

The EFT Level 1+ course covers the AAMET Level 1 syllabus, gives you many opportunities to practice and adds two new processes specifically designed for using EFT In daily life. It is designed to give you a thorough introduction to EFT and give you the skills and confidence to use it beyond the training room.

The EFT Level 1+ consists of eight modules spread over the two days.

Module 1: Introduction to EFT and ‘The Basic Recipe’

Module 2: Principles of EFT and the Simple version.

Module 3: Using EFT to take the strain out of challenging situations.

Module 4: Neutralising unpleasant memories with EFT

Module 5: The Personal Peace Procedure – A step by step process for undoing the past.

Module 6: Working with cravings and physical issues

Module 7: Taking the strain out of challenging relationships

Module 8: More practice and how to use EFT in daily life

The course includes a full manual and all training materials. At the end of the training you will receive an AAMET EFT Level 1 Attendance Certificate which is required if you want to progress to the EFT Level 2 training to add EFT to your professional tool box.

Time and Place

10am to 5pm on December 3rd & 4th at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne.

Fees

The first four people to apply will receive a special price of just £95 for the two day training.

Thereafter the Early Bird fee will be £125 until November 19th, then the full fee of £145 will apply.

Click on EFT Level 1+ December 2011 to book your place.

Anyone with an existing AAMET EFT Level 1 certificate can attend this course as a refresher for just £30, if you have previously trained with Practical Wellbeing you can attend for just £20 (get in touch with me if this applies to you).

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