A Little Drop Of Kindess Revisited

A Little Drop Of KindnessA little while ago I described a process to help generate a feeling of compassionate acceptance called A Little Drop Of Kindness.

I have created this short guided meditation based on this process.


It takes about 9 minutes of peace and quiet to run through the process.

I hope you find it enjoyable and useful.

ChangeCamp on Saturday

HourglassThere are just five days to go before the Spring ChangeCamp, this Saturday, March 26th.

If you haven’t looked recently there are now 15 17 workshops to choose from, including EFT, NLP, Coaching, Self hypnosis, Solution Focused Therapy and other topics. It’s a very rich menu

The Menu

Session 1 – 10:00-11:30

  • Solution-focused Brief Therapy – John Wheeler
  • Quick Start EFT – Andy Hunt
  • Nurture Yourself With Food – Jackie Wilkinson
  • Moving From Guilt To A Fundamentally Honest Resource – Nigel Hetherington

Session 2 – 11:45-1:15

  • Life Clubs – Abi Smith
  • Mindfulness in Gestalt Therapy – Iain MacKenzie
  • Which Side Of The Mountain – John Wheeler
  • How To Develop Your Self Confidence – Alan Scott

Session 3 – 2:15-3:45

  • Changing Reality – Huw Dampney
  • Choosing A Good Future – John Clark
  • Betty Erickson Hypnosis Technique – Jay Arnott
  • Softening The Inner Critics With EFT – Andy Hunt

Session 4 – 4:00-5:00

  • Total Calm – Alan Scott
  • Stop Thinking Start Living – Keith Adams
  • Spinning Anchors – Jay Arnott
  • Accept Yourself Even When You Don’t Think You Deserve It – Andy Hunt

Session 5:00-5:45

  • Laughter workshop – Keith Adams

That’s a lot of fun and learning for one day.

If you haven’t already booked can I recommend that you book online for the princely sum of just £10. If you pay on the door it will cost you £15 to enter.

Click here to book online

If you have paid online please print out your Paypal receipt and bring it with you to get speedy access to the event.

Please feel free to bring friends and colleagues who may be interested in this kind of event.

The Practicalities

Please remember to bring with you a small food contribution to add to the shared lunch.

ChangeCamp is at Gosforth High School opposite Gosforth Asda. It’s a couple of minutes walk from Regent Centre Metro and there is good parking if you are coming by car.

The doors open at 9:30 and the presentations start at 10am.

For more info email andy@practicalwellbeing.co.uk or call 0754 700 9116

Image courtesy of bogenfreund

ChangeCamp: A Community of Practice

ChangeCampOne of the purposes behind ChangeCamp, apart from having a good time, is developing a ‘community of practice’. Ettiene Wenger who coined the term defines it thus:

Communities of practice are formed by people who engage in a process of collective learning in a shared domain of human endeavor: a tribe learning to survive, a band of artists seeking new forms of expression, a group of engineers working on similar problems, a clique of pupils defining their identity in the school, a network of surgeons exploring novel techniques, a gathering of first-time managers helping each other cope. In a nutshell:

Communities of practice are groups of people who share a concern or a passion for something they do and learn how to do it better as they interact regularly.

There are three essential characteristics of a community of learning

The domain: A community of practice is more than just a club of friends or network of colleagues. It has a shared area of interest and members have some knowledge of that domain that separates from other people. Practising NLPers or EFTers are in shared domain – even if they do not know one another.

The community: In pursuing their interest in their domain, members engage in joint activities and discussions, help each other, and share information. They build relationships that enable them to learn from each other. Just having the same interest doesn’t make you a member of a community of practice. You need to be able to get together, interact and learn together. Wenger gives the example of the ‘Impressionists’, who used to meet in cafés and studios to discuss the style of painting they were inventing together. These interactions were essential to making them a community of practice even though they often painted alone.

The practice: Members of a community of practice are practitioners. They are not just interested in something, they use their skills in a variety of situation. They develop a shared body of resources: experiences, stories, tools, ways of addressing recurring problems – a shared practice. This takes time and sustained interaction. These interactions may be informal – work related discussions over lunch or more structured – team building, training or conferences.

Wenger says “It is the combination of these three elements that constitutes a community of practice. And it is by developing these three elements in parallel that one cultivates such a community.”

ChangeCamp is designed to fulfil that purpose in a simple, low-cost, enjoyable way.

The domain: The domain of ChangeCamp is psychological methods of change. These methods may be applied to self development, working with others in a therapeutic or educational setting, or working with groups and organisations to create change.

The community: ChangeCamp is one place for people who are interested in these areas to meet, perhaps for the first time and to develop their common interests. This website is designed to facilitate that process.

The practice: ChangeCamp is both for professional practitioners of their art it’s also for interested amateurs. Anyone who has tried to put a self-help book’s suggestions into practice is an explorer of self development even if they don’t belong to an association or get paid for it.

In an ideal world communities are supportive, educational and fun – that’s certainly my hope for ChangeCamp

Image courtesy of h.koppdelaney

Is ChangeCamp for you?

Have you ever read a self help book?

  • Have you ever read a self help book and not done the exercises suggested because you weren’t sure how, or it wasn’t so easy on your own?
  • Have you ever read a self help book and wondered if there was anyone else out there interested in the kind of ‘weird’ things that you are interested in?
  • Have you ever read an article in the newspaper or magazine about Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Neurolinguistic Programming NLP, coaching, counselling, hypnotherapy and were curious about them (but not so curious that you wanted to spend £100s taking a course)?
  • Have you ever wondered if there are different ways of thinking about things that work better than the way you think about things?
  • Have you ever wondered if there are better ways of solving problems?
  • Have you ever wondered if there are better ways to be happy?
  • Have you ever wanted to try things without having to spend a fortune?
  • If you are in the helping professions, or work with people, have you ever wondered if there are different ways of doing things that might make your work even better?

If you have ever asked yourself any of these questions then ChangeCamp might be just what you are looking for.

What ChangeCamp is:

  • ChangeCamp is about helping you discover and enjoy new ways of being in the world.
  • ChangeCamp is about joining in and trying things out.
  • ChangeCamp is a wide mixture of presentations, you choose which to go to.
  • ChangeCamp is fun. This is not a sombre occasion, in fact we usually end with a laughter workshop that will leave you grinning for days.
  • ChangeCamp is optimistic. All the presenters believe that things can be better, that as humans we can change and grow and be happier.
  • ChangeCamp is affordable. Just £10 if you are a member of the ChangeCamp website (sign up at www.changecamp.co.uk) or £15 on the door. As well as the entry fee, everyone brings some food to add to the shared lunch.
  • ChangeCamp is about community. It’s a place to meet people who are interested in the same kind of things that you are. It’s a chance to share your interests, swap stories and make new friends.
  • ChangeCamp is a collaboration. There are no paid staff, anyone can volunteer to help run the day (and enjoy the presentations at the same time).

What it is not:

  • ChangeCamp is not a mind, body, spirit fair. All the presentations are based on psychological methods of change.
  • ChangeCamp is not a substitute for therapy. While we expect the presentations to be enlightening and helpful they are not a substitute for appropriate mental or physical care.

ChangeCamp is on at Gosforth High School on March 26th, 2011 from 9:30am to 5:30pm

Image courtesy of h.koppdelany

A Patterdale Terrier's Guide To Stress Relief

Always meditate on whatever causes resentment
– Tibetan Buddhist training guideline

Andy and SallyWe have a small dog called Sally, a Patterdale Terrier, she is agreeable, affectionate, determined and at times incredibly annoying. Dealing with her has been the inspiration for this simple technique that allows you to use EFT to soothe your reactions to disagreeable situations, people and dogs!

Sally is a good dog in the house, fond of lying in whatever sun comes through the window and cuddling up to you on the sofa, but when it is time for her to go for a walk a Jeckyll and Hyde transformation takes place. She gets very excited and impatient, almost hysterical. When I leave the house with her there is almost always a chorus of barking, squealing and squawking as she does an excellent, loud, impression of a squealing pig!

Passers by look at me as if I am torturing her rather than taking her for a walk. I shrug apologetically and follow the apparently deranged dog the 100 yards to the point at which she can read and respond to her “pee-mails” then she calms down.

I’m usually pretty calm with people and animals but after a while even my patience was wearing a little thin. One morning while preparing to leave, and Sally was revving up for her performance, I thought that I need to do a little bit of tapping for myself to calm down. I stood in the porch, a very tall man looking down at very short dog, and did some tapping. All the while she looked at me with a “What is the crazy human doing now” look on her face.

After a few minutes of tapping I opened the door and we stepped out. It hadn’t made any difference she was still yapping away like a demon.

On the quiet part of the walk I had an idea. What if I make a list of all the things that aggravated me about her behaviour and tapped on those issues?

When we got home and Sally had been fed I sat down with a piece of paper, wrote on the top of the page “Sally is …”  then made a list of all the ways I could finish that sentence. It was quite an extensive list. When I had finished I went through the list reading each statement aloud giving it a score between 0-10 for how intense my reaction to the statement was. The higher the score the greater the level of aggravation.

This is what I wrote:

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