The EFT Gathering North, Ilkely, 2011

I’ve just returned from the 2011 EFT Gathering North in Ilkely. It’s an opportunity for EFT Practitioners and Therapists to get together and share presentations and experiences about their work in many different fields. Over 100 people attended and I was one of the presenters.

I had a great time presenting and demonstrating the ‘Identity Relief‘ process I developed to take care of negative identity beliefs. All the presentations were recorded and with a bit of luck I’ll be putting up an audio recording of the presentation and the demonstration on the website as soon as it is available.

(Fortunately) I wasn’t the only presenter. There were more than a dozen talks and demonstrations on a wide variety of topics. Some of the ones that made a particular impression on me (and might be relevant to you) were:

June Spencer who presented on ‘EFT Inner Repatterning’ a gentle process for dissolving problem states. You can find out more about EFT Inner Repatterning here.

Jess Mór: When the recordings of the sessions are available on the EFT Gathering website take a time to listen to the presentation by Jess who described her recovery from a traumatic childhood and its aftermath using EFT. It was a stunning presentation and insight into a troubled world and a determined effort to be free from suffering. This was the presentation that earned a well deserved standing ovation

Claire Hayes gave a powerful insight into the world of families with autistic children. She has a child with autism herself so is very well aquainted with that predicament. If you have a child on the autistic spectrum or know someone who has then I heartily recommend her Autism Parent Support project.

Phil Reed talked about his work helping teachers in schools in deprived areas of Inner London using a process he calls NATTY LALA (it’s an acronym) to help whole classes (and their teachers) get into a better state of being. If you are a stressed out teacher with stressed out kids (and colleagues) then ‘natty lala’ may be very helpful in calming down your class. You can find out about Phil and natty lala here.

John Bullough spoke entertainingly and profoundly about long term relationships and how to keep them developing over the long term using the ‘Differentiation Model’. You can find John at and his article about using EFT with the model of relationships here.

Karen Lewis gave a tour around the issues of the menopause and how EFT could help with symptomatic relief and the emotional issues around that time in women’s (and their partner’s) lives. You can find Karen at

All in all it was a great weekend and I got a lot of ideas and inspiration from listening to the presenters and talking to other attendees.

A big thank you to Andy Eckely for organising this gathering, and to Gwyneth Moss for being the master of ceremonies. I’m already looking forward to next year’s event.

PS If you live in the Midlands there is a Midlands EFT Gathering in Sutton Coalfield on 21st & 22nd May, 2011. If it’s half as good as the Northern Gathering, it’ll be great.

Help With Negative Self Talk – Steve Andreas

This is probably one of the most informative and useful adverts you’ll ever see.

If you have trouble with your internal dialogue, or self talk, then Steve Andreas, veteran NLP Trainer has compiled two ebooks packed with methods for helping you cope with unhelpful internal commentary.

This video is an advert to those books in which he demonstrates a couple of simple approaches to changing your experience of internal commentary.

Even if you don’t want the books you may find it a very worthwhile watch.

If you do want the books you can find out more here.

Bill O'Hanlon Workshop – Early Bird Price Extended To Feb 3rd


Keeping Your Soul Alive

A Professional And Personal Recharging To Challenge Compassion Fatigue

20th & 21st May 2011 – Newcastle upon Tyne

Early bird booking period extended to February 3rd
Save £75 by booking early

Are you  someone in the helping professions?

  • Does your soul need some care and attention?
  • Are you suffering from compassion fatigue?
  • Have you lost sight of the reasons you went into this kind of work?
  • Are you heading towards burn out (or already there)?

Keeping Your Soul Alive is a two day workshop for: therapists, counsellors, psychologists, nurses, doctors, coaches and anyone who works with people and finds themselves suffering in work they (used to) love.

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7 steps to more wellbeing

I’ve written a 49 page ebook called “7 steps to more wellbeing” containing seven processes that you can use to feel better about yourself and life general.

The book is a gift for anyone who signs up to the Practical Wellbeing Newsletter (you can do that in the box at the top right of the website)

The book includes the following seven chapters

Chapter 1: Decide What You Don’t Want – most people have a long list of don’t wants. Don’t wants are a popular way of keeping track of being unhappy with your current situation and wanting to change. Unfortunately they have a hidden disadvantage – they tend to keep you focussed on where you are, not, where you want to be. In this chapter you’ll get a very simple way to turn your don’t wants into something more useful.

Chapter 2: Write a Letter From The Future – Everyone knows that 20-20 hindsight is a wonderful thing. What if , when faced with a challenge, you could have your hindsight in advance? In this chapter you’ll learn a very simple trick of the imagination that lets you get free advice from your future self.

Chapter 3: Accept Yourself – When we are the problem, we have a problem. If you spend a lot of time criticising and finding fault with yourself it can eat into your wellbeing. Self blame and condemnation is a common problem. This chapter shows you a simple way to begin to soften self blame and condemnation even if you think you deserve it.

Chapter 4: Sit In The Happy Chair – A simple and unexpected alternative to affirmations that can help you change the way you feel. This approach lets you acknowledge the reality of your situation and have access to more resourceful feelings and states of mind.

Chapter 5: Soak In Good Feelings – If you are the kind of person who brushes off the 49 good things that happened today to sink into the one bad experience and wallow in misery then this process is for you. Because of an innate tendency of the mind, many of us find it hard to resist feeling bad and it can be difficult to enjoy the good feelings that life brings us. This process gives you permission to dwell in pleasant experiences

Chapter 6: Enjoy Gratitude – Gratitude and gratitude lists have been a popular part of spiritual practice and the self help literature. In this chapter you will learn a simple way to take advantage of gratitude and a new way to sink deeply into gratitude to really enjoy those feelings.

Chapter 7: Direct Your Attention – Where you focus your attention can have a big effect on your mental health and wellbeing. It won’t come as a surprise to know that dwelling on negative experiences in our lives makes us feel bad. In this chapter you will learn a very easy to use technique that will help you focus on the good things in life and enjoy them.

To sign up you can go to the sign up box at the top of the website or click here.

I hope you enjoy the book and find it useful.

EFT Café – 9th Feb – Getting Permission To Be Who You Want To Be

Many years ago, famous psychologist, C G Jung proposed that we were forced by upbringing, or experience, to conceal important aspects of ourselves to get along with those around us.

Those aspects and capacities were hidden away in what he called The Shadow, the part of the psyche where all the disowned parts of ourselves are put away.

It’s not just the negative aspects of ourselves we need to conceal, many of our positive possibilities were pushed into the shadow to get along with our care givers and friends.

As children we enter the world as little bundles of energy, noise and enthusiasm. As part of our socialisation process we learn that there are some things we can and can’t feel.

For example, most children are often exuberant, excited and determined to speak, this can be troublesome to their parents in certain situations.

In an effort to make their children more acceptable to themselves and other people they restrict or even punish displays of enthusiasm and outspokenness. For the child feeling exited becomes a forbidden feeling, it’s just not allowed and has to be suppressed.

Unfortunately for us many of the things we learn in childhood follows us into later life limiting our range of movement. Our old permissions are one of these limitations.

As an adult perhaps would like to feel more excited, enthusiastic and alive but for some reason it seems difficult – almost as if it wasn’t allowed.

There may be many things your are ‘not allowed’ to do

  • I’m not allowed to be enthusiastic
  • I’m not allowed to say what I think
  • I’m not allowed to be happy
  • I’m not allowed …

In February’s EFT Café we will identify areas in permission has been denied to us and use a simple and quick tapping routine to release those old bonds and give us permission to think and feel as we wish.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday February 9th between 7pm and 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10.

Drop me a line to andy [at] practicalwellbeing [dot] co [dot] uk for more information.

Note: You will need some experience of EFT to attend this event.

Picture courtesy of Richard Cocks

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