Are you sitting on a happy chair?

I came upon this story from Vikas an NLP Practitioner from India on the excellent Art of NLP newsgroup. I particularly enjoyed the simplicity of his approach.

About 18 months ago a young lady asked me for help for her depression. She was visiting a psychiatrist and taking some medicine for depression for preceding few months.I suggested to her to look around and mentally say… “I am sitting on this happy chair. There is this happy table. And these are happy windows with happy curtains.” I made her do this for about ten minutes. I suggested she does this every day for about ten or fifteen minutes. (A happy person lives in a happy world, a sad person lives in a sad world.)

After fifteen days she called to say that she was feeling great now. After about two months she visited the psychiatrist and he stopped her medicine. She continues to call occasionally and reports that she feels great now. The most recent one was when she was in my town about ten days ago.

I am not suggesting it will work with every patient of depression. I am not even suggesting one should use it with every patient. I am only saying I found that it worked with my patient and it is very easy to do.

Many thanks to Vikas for allowing me to share it with you.

So, are you sitting on a happy chair?

Juggling your way out of anxiety

This is a very useful (non-EFT) method for reducing anxiety recommended by Andy Austin. All you need is your anxiety and a tennis or juggling ball. Brain scan studies have demonstrated that anxiety only occurs in one hemisphere of the brain. If you force the both hemispheres of the brain to communicate with some physical actions then the anxiety state can be quickly diminished.

Here’s what you do:

  1. Conjure up the state of anxiety (if you are troubled by anxiety you may not need to do much conjuring).
  2. Holding your hands out in front of you, elbows bent as if you were holding a tray. Toss the ball back and forth between your hands. The ball must cross in front of you as you catch and throw. As you do this you will find your anxiety level beginning to diminish.
  3. After a while stop ‘juggling’ to guage your level of anxiety. Typically it will be reduced.
  4. Continue juggling and checking until the anxiety is reduced to zero.

You can use this process when the anxiety arises or imagine an anxiety provoking situation and reduce the anticipated anxiety. Here’s a video explanation and demonstration of this approach by Andy Austin on YouTube.

Nigel Hetherington and I of IntegrityNLP are hosting a two day Excellence in Therapy workshop with Andy Austin on June 21st & 22nd. We’ve both done some training work with him and we are very impressed with what he does and how he presents.

Get in touch if you would like some more information.

Getting in and out of a state

In NLP a state is word describing the sum total of how we feel, our mood and our physiology.

Some states are very simple and have common every day names such as: angry, loving, dissappointed. Other states can be complex combinations of feelings and moods that may have no name but are very familiar to us.

Many people think that their state is something they are stuck with, in reality they are easy to change and choose. States and state management is a fundamental part of NLP.

In the next NLP Café meeting on May 20th we will explore getting in and out of states. In the first part of this practice group we will use a process to tease apart unresourceful states so that they are easier to change. In second part we will work on creating tailor made states for use on any occasion.

Join Andy Hunt and Nigel Hetherington to get in, and out of, a bit of a state at St Oswald’s Hospice Training Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle on Tuesday May 20th between 7pm & 9pm.

EFT Level 1 Training

EFT Level 1On June 7th I will be running an EFT Level 1 training at St Oswald’s Hospice, Newcastle. This is the introductory level of EFT training and equips you with the skills to use EFT to work on your own issues and those of your family and friends. It’s a hands-on training with lots of supervised practice, you’ll soon be using EFT for yourself, and you may be surprised at just how quick, effective and painless it can be.

The Happy List

Today the Times brings out the list of the 100 richest people in Britain. If you’re one of them and like to read about yourself, fine! If you are not one of them and find it all a little depressing here’s a list that’ll do you some good: The Independent on Sunday Happy List profiles of people who make Britain a better and happier place to live.

A few examples:

John Cunningham; Charity fundraiser
Area of excellence: Charity

A retired painter from Durham who has raised more than £1m for charity, walking more than 100,000 miles in the process. He began in 1986 with a 1,000-mile marathon – since then he has covered many long-distance walks including Land’s End to John o’Groats. Has also collected for charity at a local supermarket for 29 years.

Clare Parry-Jones; Clown doctor
Area of excellence: Mental well-being

Aka Dr Ding Dong. Each week she dons a red nose, purple hair and a giant turquoise stethoscope to administer the best medicine. One of Britain’s longest-serving clown doctors, she visits more than 4,000 children a year, is a specialist and teacher of drama therapy, and adapts her play according to a child’s personality, age and illness.

Megan Blunt; Author and charity campaigner
Area of excellence: Mental well-being

A 16-year-old bone cancer survivor, she is the author of ‘Chemotherapy, Cakes and Cancer’, an A-Z guide for children living with cancer which includes tips for treatment and easy definitions of medical terms. As well as studying for her GCSEs she is also a young people’s ambassador for the children’s cancer charity CLIC Sargent.

If you can’t read this list without feeling better then I respectfully suggest you need some help, or better still, go help someone else it’ll do you good.

SET at the EFT Cafe

The May meeting of the EFT Cafe will focus on Simple Energy Techniques (SET) a an approach that is similar to EFT because it involves tapping on accupuncture points but different in that it doesn’t use setup statements and encourages continual tapping throughout a session. SET was developed by Steve Wells and Dr David Lake in Australia you can find out more about it here.

Many EFTers complain that they have trouble coming up with the correct form of words for the setup statement. SET may be very useful in this case because the setup statement is abandoned completely. Also because tapping can be done continuously without any special wording it would be possible to integrate this way of working into conventional talk therapy just by adding the tapping to what you already do.

This EFT Cafe will be on May 13th between 7pm to 9pm costing just £10. For more information contact me.

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