Missing my chance in Fenwicks

I was standing in the checkout queue in Fenwicks department store in what turned out to be a lengthy wait as a little old lady entered into an elaborate refund negotiation with the cashier. I decided to hang in there and just be patient as all the other queues looked equally crowded. I stood there and meditated on impatience, I noticed a smaller queue to my left and I debated moving sideways. In the time it took me to think about it, other people with the same idea stepped into the gap and I thought ‘Damn, I missed my chance!‘ and then I thought ‘I always miss my chance‘.

Missing your chance in a supermarket queue is not so bad, having the idea that ‘I always miss my chance’ could be quite limiting. There are lots of chances in life for all sorts of things I don’t want to go around believing that I always miss them. Our beliefs tend to have a compulsive quality so that we’ll behave in ways that prove them right (self-fulfilling prophecies are an example of this). I decided that always believing I’d miss my chance was something that might be worth changing.

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Flotsam and Jetsam Part II

In the first Flotsam and Jetsam article I suggested that it was worth tackling the drip, drip, drip of negative thoughts and feelings that float in and out of conciousness. In this article I want to draw some distinctions between the different types of flotsam and jetsam, and what you might be able to do with the bits of junk that come your way using EFT and other techniques. (If you want to know more about EFT download the free manual from this website or visit www.emofree.com.)

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Paul McKenna Tapping on TV and Radio

Paul McKenna seems to be popping all over the place at the moment tapping aways as well as doing his usual NLP approaches.

This morning he tapped on someone for fear of flying on the Chris Moyles Breakfast Show on Radio 1. Over on the Sky network he’s currently running a program on weight loss using TFT as his tapping approach. TFT or Thought Field Therapy, invented by Dr Roger Callahan, is the direct ancestor of EFT.

It’s nice to see the ‘weird’ looking tapping techniques get some airtime, anything that let’s people know about this gentle approach to resolving difficulties is fine by me.

I must thank Julia, Steve and Flora for pointing these programs out to me (either I should watch more TV, or they should watch less).

Free Pain Relief Workshops

I will be running two FREE pain relief workshops at the Bodywork Centre in Hexham on Tuesday, January 31st at 1pm, and Saturday, February 4th at 10am.

EFT has been used to relieve or remove headaches, muscular and joint pain, post-operative pain and a host of other pains and discomforts (examples). In these two hour workshops I will demonstrate the use of EFT to relieve pain.

  • Introduction to EFT, you don’t need any previous experience of EFT to attend this workshop.
  • Use of EFT with simple discomforts.
  • How to use EFT for significant pain.
  • Knowing how to approach specific difficulties.

This workshop is will be a great way to find out about EFT and what it can do for you at no cost.

Attendees of the workshop will receive a 30% discount on a one to one follow up session if they need it.

Flotsam and Jetsam Part I

A walk along a beach will give you a fine view of the sea, the taste of salt in the air, screeching gulls, long stretches of sand and miscellaneous bits of junk. Bottles, bits of wood, battered fish boxes, shreds of net, dead sea birds and a thousand other things that shouldn’t be there cluttering up the beach.

Sometimes our minds can feel like they’re cluttered with little bits of junk, stuff that’s annoying but not so bad that we have to do anything special about it.

In ‘flotsam and jetsam’ articles I’ll introduce some of the kinds of junk I find on the beach of my mind and offer ways of removing them. Even if you don’t have my kinds of junk, I hope you’ll be able to use the articles to assist you in dealing with your own flotsam and jetsam.

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So many things you should do

It’s the New Year again, the season of resolutions, some of us are entertaining thoughts of what we should do. Perhaps you feel you should loose weight, stop smoking, take up exercise, or on a more mudane level you should do the ironing or wash the car.

I don’t know about you, but I often tell myself what I should do, I should do the washing up, put the bin out, or tidy up. I think the intention behind this line of self-talk is good, it’s to get me motivated to do things that aren’t intrinsically exiting or appealing. But, there’s a problem with telling yourself what you should do, take a moment to think of a time when someone else told you what you should do. My reaction is indignation, ‘Who the heck are you to tell me what to do?’, even if I don’t say that, I tend to dig my heels in, even if it’s a good idea from someone I respect.

In general we like to entertain the idea that we are masters of our destiny and we don’t like to go along with someone else’s idea of what that might be, however intelligent and well meant. If this is your reaction when other’s should on you, how well do you react to shoulding on yourself. So telling yourself that you should do X, Y or Z can provoke resistance before you even start. What could you do differently?

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