TV Therapy

I fainted in a first aid class about 10 year ago. It was at my local St John Ambulance Brigade, in a hot stuffy subterraean room, at least that was my excuse. We’d gone through blood and gore, burns and shocks, this morning we were due to do broken bones. As the lesson started I felt more uncomfortable, hot and lightheaded, I thought that I would get a breath of fresh air, got to my feet and headed for the door, one moment I was vertical, the next I opened my eyes and couldn’t work out why my cheek was pressed up against the carpet.

The instructor was expertly arranging me in the recovery postition, which is good for faints it doesn’t do anything for embarrassment. The other participants of the course where convinced it was a put up job so the instructor could show us how unconciousness could be treated. I came to the conclusion that me and broken bones didn’t mix.

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Dealing with Difficult People

We’ve probably all got people in our lives that we’d rather not see, a difficult colleague or family member – the kind of person that makes your heart sink, you hackles rise or your stomach churn. Here’s one way of dealing with difficult people and the reactions you have to them that I’ve been experimenting with in the last couple of months. One of it’s big advantages is that the person is question doesn’t have to be present.

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Lighthouse Blues

I frequently look after Jamie, a good friend’s four year old, either minding him at home, or going out and about on adventures. About six months ago we visited St Mary’s lighthouse at Whitley Bay, perhaps you’ve been there? It’s an impressive sight, a short walk along a causeway gets you to the surrounding buildings and the lighthouse itself. Although it’s no longer a working lighthouse the buildings are open to the public and we’ve been in a couple of times.

This time we wandered through into the tower and Jamie decided he wanted to climb to the top. I wasn’t keen, generally I don’t mind heights, mountains and rocks are fine, most of the other lighthouses I’ve been in are fine; but there’s something about St Mary’s that’s a bit disconcerting, the tower is quite wide at the base and tapers at the top. Perhaps it’s an optical illusion but it seems as though the steps lean in to the drop in the middle, so that you might easily slide off.

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Categories EFT

Making Progress Slowly with Back Pain

A few weeks ago I was away attending a three day NLP training. I’ve stayed at the same B&B a few times. The last time I stayed my landlady, let’s call her Mary, she mentioned that she was having trouble with back pain. I mentioned that I new a procedure that may be of help to her and promised to demonstrate it when I was next visiting.

On the Friday evening when I’d settled in and had a cup of tea, I asked her about her back pain, it was about the same as before. I reminded her of my offer to show her EFT in the hopes that it might relieve some of her pain. She was keen to try it, even after I warned her that it might look a little bit strange.

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Composting for beginners

If you’ve had a rough day, you might decide to put your feet up and unwind with a bottle of Chardonnay, or a box of chocolates, a couple of hours of TV. It’s nice just to forget about those troublesome events, put them to the back of your mind and relax. However, you may have noticed that those things tend to show up again, perhaps as you’re trying to get to sleep, or waking you up and keeping you awake in the middle of the night.

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Ten Tips for Surviving the Health Care System

by Shelle Rose Charvet

“The good news is that your condition is pre-cancerous. The bad news is that it is untreatable and I strongly recommend that you have a mastectomy.”

“I’m sorry, what did you say was the good news?” The doctor’s mouth continued to flap open and closed; I know he made sounds, but the words disappeared into a vortex.

Over the last couple of years I have been in and out of crowded doctors’ waiting rooms, been pinched by mammogram machines, had needles shot into my body to remove tissue samples while I was held in a vice, had a large piece surgically taken out of me and my whole breast removed.

Luckily, my mother often came with me on doctor visits. Luckily, my friend who works at the cancer information centre showed up with a large pile of information. Luckily, my brother accompanied me through the procedures to hold my hand and get answers when my brain shut down.

“Gee, you sound really mellow after your operation.”

“I don’t do mellow. I’m still drugged.” But even in my groggy state, I realized that there must be a better way to go through this. So I thought up 10 tips for surviving the health care system.

1. Always assume that you have fallen through the cracks, unless you get proof to the contrary. No news is not good news. It may mean that someone forgot to do something. Medical care can be complicated and need a lot of co-ordination among large numbers of people.

2. Never blame anyone. Recognize that everyone working in the system is very busy and probably stressed-out. While you are only concerned with yourself, they are juggling dozens of people, or hundreds.

3. Create positive relationships with everyone who can help you. Introduce yourself to every nurse, receptionist, technician and doctor that you will need to see again. Ask them for their first name. Remember it or record it for quick reference.

Next time you see them establish rapport by using their first name and engaging them in personal chat before you get down to business. It only takes a few seconds. This will help ensure that you become more than just a file, and will give you some insight into what each person does. It also makes it easier to request things when you need to.

4. Apologize before you make a request. “I’m sorry to bother you when you are so busy, but since I hadn’t heard from you, I thought I’d better check whether you were able to make the appointment.”

Canadians naturally apologize for anything, even when we are not responsible. It’s time we learned to use the power of apology. If you say you’re sorry, you can ask for just about anything – and still be perceived as nice.

5. Take someone with you and give them a job to do. For any important meeting or procedure, take a friend or family member with you. Their job is to remain sane, create rapport and ask good questions. This way, if you lose your grip, someone else still has it.

6. Use all your contacts. Surely someone you know, knows someone who knows someone who can find out what you need. At times this may be the only way to obtain information, a second opinion or to get in to see someone quickly. If you are hesitant to use your contacts, apologize for bothering them.

7. Be prepared to do a lot of waiting. Make appointments early in the day before the doctor has a chance to get behind schedule. This way you’ll see the doctor before she/he gets tired and cranky. Just after lunch is okay too. Remember to take something you like to do in case you have to wait anyway.

8. Take everything your doctors way as information instead of gospel. Allow yourself time to think about it. Remember that medical professionals are trained to think about and discuss the worst possible scenarios. Ask them what each treatment is supposed to accomplish and repeat that message over and over to yourself to create a goal-oriented mindset within yourself. Write down your questions prior to the appointment and write down the answers – or ask your companion to do the writing.

9. Do what you need to do to stay upbeat and positive. It’s perfectly normal to feel depressed and demoralized upon hearing bad news. I’ve been through shock, numbness, denying that this could be happening, panic, anger and feeling depressed. You can let yourself feel all those things, knowing that this is how you are felling at this moment in time, and that you will move on. Continually remind yourself that you are good at healing, that you get better quickly. Notice what has improved each day and comment on it to yourself and others. While some may think this weird; you can even speak to your physical self; cheer for your immune system and thank it for sticking up for you.

10. Hang out with cheerful, upbeat and helpful people. I found it wearing having to cheer up other people when I told them I had cancer. I was also subjected to everyone’s personal dogma regarding what I should do. It ran the gamut; from slavishly following every instruction from the doctor to never believing anything the doctor says.

There is only so much sympathy you can take before you begin to believe that you ought to feel sorry for yourself. Only see people who make you feel good – who make you laugh, who get you out, who bring over lovely things to eat. If someone asks you how can they help – get them to make morale-raising food, take you to a funny movie, or bring over a good video. If depressing people want to come over, apologize and tell them you’re not up to it.

At the beginning of last year I went through several major reconstructive surgeries, some of which were quite difficult. A few months ago my 11-year-old son was diagnosed with cancer. So far, so good – the tips have helped a lot. Although, I have to admit that it’s been much harder dealing with my feelings about my son’s illness than my own. While I’m able to be positive about his healing with him, his brother and the care-givers, the challenge has been keeping myself positive when I’m alone.

I’ve been getting extra support to help me. I go to a therapist to get frustrations off my chest and insight. I shrug my shoulders and forgive myself when I forget where I’m going. I play solitaire on the computer. And I’ve discovered a great excuse to have a lot of little rewards. Where did I leave my pack of Werthers?

Permission to reprint kindly granted by Shelle Rose Charvet, of Success Strategies, Ontario, Canada.

Web: www.successtrategies.com

Tel: +1 905 639-6468

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